In every case, the object of the teacher’s treatment is to show the
child that he must conform to the conditions of the social group he
belongs to, instead of fixing conditions to suit himself. She should
remember, however, that _real_ unselfishness has not been attained until
the child voluntarily surrenders some fancied good. Coercion may
sometimes be a stepping stone in leading a child toward the goal, but it
is only a stepping stone. True unselfishness requires that the child
himself deliberately make the choice that crowns another with the
happiness that he desired for himself.