The Abuse of Docility

Docility may survive as a lazy habit long after it has ceased to be a

beneficial instinct. If you catch a child when it is young enough to be

instinctively docile, and keep it in a condition of unremitted tutelage

under the nurserymaid, the governess, the preparatory school, the

secondary school, and the university, until it is an adult, you will

produce, not a self-reliant, free, fully matured human being, but a

grown-up schoolboy or schoolgirl, capable of nothing in the way of

original or independent action except outbursts of naughtiness in the

women and blackguardism in the men. That is exactly what we get at

present in our rich and consequently governing classes: they pass from

juvenility to senility without ever touching maturity except in body.

The classes which cannot afford this sustained tutelage are notably more

self-reliant and grown-up: an office boy of fifteen is often more of a

man than a university student of twenty. Unfortunately this precocity

is disabled by poverty, ignorance, narrowness, and a hideous power of

living without art or love or beauty and being rather proud of it. The

poor never escape from servitude: their docility is preserved by their

slavery. And so all become the prey of the greedy, the selfish, the

domineering, the unscrupulous, the predatory. If here and there an

individual refuses to be docile, ten docile persons will beat him or

lock him up or shoot him or hang him at the bidding of his oppressors

and their own. The crux of the whole difficulty about parents,

schoolmasters, priests, absolute monarchs, and despots of every sort,

is the tendency to abuse natural docility. A nation should always be

healthily rebellious; but the king or prime minister has yet to be found

who will make trouble by cultivating that side of the national spirit. A

child should begin to assert itself early, and shift for itself more

and more not only in washing and dressing itself, but in opinions and

conduct; yet as nothing is so exasperating and so unlovable as an uppish

child, it is useless to expect parents and schoolmasters to inculcate

this uppishness. Such unamiable precepts as Always contradict an

authoritative statement, Always return a blow, Never lose a chance of a

good fight, When you are scolded for a mistake ask the person who scolds

you whether he or she supposes you did it on purpose, and follow the

question with a blow or an insult or some other unmistakable expression

of resentment, Remember that the progress of the world depends on your

knowing better than your elders, are just as important as those of The

Sermon on the Mount; but no one has yet seen them written up in letters

of gold in a schoolroom or nursery. The child is taught to be kind, to

be respectful, to be quiet, not to answer back, to be truthful when its

elders want to find out anything from it, to lie when the truth would

shock or hurt its elders, to be above all things obedient, and to be

seen and not heard. Here we have two sets of precepts, each warranted

to spoil a child hopelessly if the other be omitted. Unfortunately we

do not allow fair play between them. The rebellious, intractable,

aggressive, selfish set provoke a corrective resistance, and do not

pretend to high moral or religious sanctions; and they are never urged

by grown-up people on young people. They are therefore more in danger

of neglect or suppression than the other set, which have all the adults,

all the laws, all the religions on their side. How is the child to be

secured its due share of both bodies of doctrine?

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