12. If the hands are allowed to swing in walking, the arc should be
limited, and the lady will manage them much more gracefully, if they almost
touch the clothing.
13. A lady should not stand with her hands behind her. We could almost say,
forget the hands except to keep them clean, including the nails, cordial
and helpful. One hand may rest easily in the other. Study repose of
attitude here as well as in the rest of the body.
14. Gestures are for emphasis in public speaking; do not point elsewhere,
as a rule.
15. Greet your acquaintances as you meet them with a slight bow and smile,
as you speak.
16. Look the person to whom you speak in the eye. Never under any
circumstances wink at another or communicate by furtive looks.
17. Should you chance to be the rejected suitor of a lady, bear in mind
your own self-respect, as well as the inexorable laws {51} of society, and
bow politely when you meet her. Reflect that you do not stand before all
woman-kind as you do at her bar. Do not resent the bitterness of
flirtation. No lady or gentleman will flirt. Remember ever that painful
prediscovery is better than later disappointment. Let such experience spur
you to higher exertion.
18. Discretion should be exercised in introducing persons. Of two gentlemen
who are introduced, if one is superior in rank or age, he is the one to
whom the introduction should be made. Of two social equals, if one be a
stranger in the place, his name should be mentioned first.