The way to becoming a complete fusser is obscure at the start of it.
To determine the predisposing causes to fussiness would necessitate
volumes of research into the secrets of individuality and the origins
of character--and would assuredly lead to no practical result, because
these creative mysteries lie beyond our influence--at any rate for the
present. A man is born with or without the instinct to fuss--that must
suffice for us.
Nevertheless the real instinct to fuss ought not to be confused with
perfectly normal impulses which may superficially resemble it. Thus
it is often assumed that domestic servants as a class are fussy,
especially about their food. I can see no reason why domestic
servants as a class should be fussy, and I do not believe they are.
What is mistaken for fussiness in them is merely the universal human
prejudice against anything to which one is not accustomed. Labouring
people are, unfortunately for themselves, used to a narrow diet. A
hundred comestibles which to their alleged superiors may seem quite
commonplace are fearsomely strange to labouring people. A rural girl
goes to serve in a large house; she is offered excellent fish, and she
refuses it; she ‘can’t fancy it.’ Whereupon the mistress exclaims upon
the astounding fussiness of the poor! The explanation of the affair is
simply that the rural girl has never had opportunity to regard fish as
an article of diet.
Similar phenomena may be observed in children of even the superior
unfussy classes. And, for another instance, gardeners will grow the
most superb asparagus who would not dream of eating it, and could
scarcely bring themselves to eat it. For them asparagus is not a
luxury, but something unnatural in the mouth, like snails or the
hind-legs of frogs. Snails and the hind-legs of frogs are luxuries in
various parts of the world; the Anglo-Saxon maid-scorning mistress
would certainly recoil from them if they were put on her plate, and in
so doing she would not lay herself open to a charge of fussiness. Yet
in recoiling from them she would be behaving exactly like the rural
maid whom she scorns.
Nor must fussiness be confused with certain profound and incurable
antipathies, such as the strong repulsion of some individuals for cats,
apples, horses, etc.
The real instinct to fuss can always be distinguished from the other
thing by this--the real instinct to fuss is progressive. If it is
not checked with extreme firmness it goes steadily on its way. And
though the start of the way to becoming a complete fusser may be
obscure, the later portions of the journey are not so obscure. Pride,
if not conceit, presides over them, and is always pushing forward
the traveller from one abnormality to the next. Thus a man discloses
a dislike to black clothes. His aunt dies at a great distance and
leaves him some money. His wife asks him: ‘Shall you wear black?’ He
answers with somewhat pained dignity: ‘Darling, you know I never wear
black.’ He is now known to himself and to his wife as the man who will
not wear black. Then his father dies, in the same town where the son
lives; the objector to black will have to attend the funeral. After a
little conversation with him the wife says to friends: ‘You know Edward
objects to black. He does really. He _never_ wears it, and I’m
afraid he won’t wear it even for his father’s funeral.’
Henceforth Edward is known not merely to himself and his wife but to
the whole town as the man who won’t wear black. It is a distinction.
He is proud of it. His wife is rather impressed by the sturdiness of
his resolution. He has suffered a little for his objection to black.
His reputation is made. An anti-black clause inserts itself into his
religion. Pride develops into conceit. Success and renown encourage the
instinct to fuss, and soon he has grown fussy about something else. And
thus does the fellow reach his goal of being a complete fusser.