It is necessary that a woman should sufficiently possess a harmony
full of prudence and temperance. For it is requisite that her soul
should be vehemently inclined to the acquisition of virtue; so
that she may be just, brave, and prudent, and may be adorned with
frugality, and hate vainglory. For, from the possession of these
virtues, she will act worthily when she becomes a wife, towards
herself, her husband, her children, and her family. Frequently,
also, such a woman will act beautifully towards cities, if she
happens to rule over cities or nations, as we see is [sometimes]
the case in a kingdom. If, therefore, she subdues desire and anger,
a divine harmony will be produced. Hence she will not be pursued
by illegal loves, but she will love her husband, her children, and
all her family. For such women as are fond of being connected with
other men besides their husbands, become hostile to the whole of
their families, both to those branches of it that are free, and
those that are slaves. They also machinate stratagems against their
husbands, and falsely represent them as the calumniators of all their
acquaintance, in order that they alone may appear to be exceedingly
benevolent; and they govern their families in such a way as may be
expected from those that are lovers of indolence. For from such
conduct the destruction ensues of every thing which is common to the
husband and wife. And thus much as to these particulars.
It is also requisite to lead the body to what is naturally moderate,
with respect to nutriment, clothes, bathing, anointing, dressing the
hair, and to whatever pertains to decoration from gold and jewels.
For whatever of a sumptuous nature is employed by women in eating
and drinking, in garments and trinkets, renders them disposed to
be guilty of every crime, and to be unjust both to their husband’s
bed, and to every other person. It is requisite, therefore, that
they should only satisfy hunger and thirst, and this from things
easily procured; and that they should defend themselves from cold
by garments of the simplest kind. But to be fed with things which
are brought from a distant country, or which are obtained at a great
price, is no small vice. It is also great folly to search after
exceedingly elegant garments, which are variegated with purple,
or any other precious colour. For the body wishes to be neither
cold nor naked, but to be covered for the sake of decorum, and is
not [externally] in want of any thing else. The opinion of men,
however, in conjunction with ignorance, proceeds to inanities and
superfluities. Hence a woman should neither be decorated with gold,
nor with Indian gems, nor with the jewels of any other nation,
nor plait her hair with abundance of art, nor be perfumed with
Arabian unguents, nor paint her face so that it may be more white
or more red, nor give a dark tinge to her eyebrows and her eyes,
nor artificially dye her gray hairs, nor frequently bathe. For the
woman who seeks after things of this kind searches for a spectator of
female intemperance. For the beauty which is produced by prudence,
and not by these particulars, pleases women that are well born.
Nor should she conceive that nobility and wealth, the being born
in a great city, glory, and the friendship of renowned and royal
men, are to be ranked among things that are necessary. For if they
happen to be present, they should not be the cause to her of any
molestation; and if they should not be present, she should not regret
their absence. For a prudent woman will not be prevented from living
[properly] without these. And if those great and much admired things
which we have mentioned should not be present, her soul should not
anxiously explore, but withdraw itself from them. For in consequence
of drawing their possessor to misfortune, they are more noxious than
beneficial. For to these, treachery, envy, and calumny are adjacent,
so that such a woman cannot be free from perturbation.
It is also necessary that she should venerate the Gods through good
hope of obtaining felicity by this veneration, and by obeying the
laws and sacred institutions of her country. But after the Gods,
I say, that she should honour and venerate her parents. For these
cooperate with the Gods in benefiting their children. Moreover, she
ought to live with her husband legally and kindly, conceiving nothing
to be her own property, but preserving and being the guardian of his
bed. For in the preservation of this all things are contained. It is
likewise requisite that she should bear every thing [in a becoming
manner] which may happen to her husband, whether he is unfortunate
in his affairs, or acts erroneously through ignorance, or disease,
or intoxication, or from having connection with other women. For
this last error is granted to men; but not to women, since they
are punished for this offence. It is necessary, therefore, that
she should submit to the law with equanimity, and not be jealous.
She ought likewise to bear patiently his anger, his parsimony, and
the complaints which he may make of his destiny, his jealousy, and
his accusation of her, and whatever other faults he may inherit
from nature. For all these she should cheerfully endure, conducting
herself towards him with prudence and modesty. For a wife who is
dear to her husband, and who truly performs her duty towards him, is
a [domestic] harmony, and loves the whole of her family, to which
also she conciliates the benevolence of strangers. If, however, she
neither loves her husband nor her children, nor her servants, nor
wishes to see any sacrifice preserved; then she becomes the leader of
every kind of destruction, which she likewise prays for, as being an
enemy, and also prays for the death of her husband, as being hostile
to him, in order that she may be connected with other men; and, in
the last place, she hates whatever her husband loves. But it appears
to me that a wife will be a [domestic] harmony, if she is full of
prudence and modesty. For then she will not only love her husband,
but also her children, her kindred, her servants, and the whole of
her family, in which possessions, friends, citizens, and strangers
are contained. She will likewise adorn the bodies of these without
any superfluous ornaments, and will both speak and hear such things
only as are beautiful and good. It is also requisite that she should
act conformably to her husband’s opinion in what pertains to their
common life, and be satisfied with those relatives and friends that
meet with his approbation. And she will conceive these things to be
pleasant and disagreeable which are thought to be so by her husband,
unless she is entirely destitute of harmony.