ON THE STYLE OF LIVING AND EXPENSES.
This work is designed _primarily_ for young and inexperienced
housekeepers, and the following suggestions are presented as the
advice of many judicious and experienced matrons in our country, to
their young countrywomen, who are to follow them in the trying duties
of housekeeping.
Nothing in this country is a greater source of suffering to
housekeepers, than _bad taste_ in their style of living and
expenditure. _Good taste_ is that nice perception of fitness and
propriety which leads a person to say and do whatever is _suitable_
and _appropriate_ in all possible circumstances. Such good taste is
ordinarily the result of good feelings and well-cultivated mind, and
an acquaintance with the world. Yet this correct taste is sometimes
found in minds that have enjoyed but few advantages, but by nature are
endowed with _refined feelings_ and _good common sense_.
Where this good taste exists, it leads a woman to wish to have her
house, furniture, and style of living, in all its parts, exactly
conformed to _her means_, and _her situation_. If she is not rich,
she will not wish to have a house, or furniture, or dress like those
who are rich, and will find a pride and pleasure in making a small
house, plain furniture, simple dress, and an economical table, so neat,
and orderly, and comfortable, and tasteful, as to ensure comfort and
satisfaction to all around her. If she cannot command good domestics,
nor live comfortably in a house, and with furniture which requires
them, she will aim to alter the style of her establishment, and adopt
one which can be thoroughly and successfully carried out by such
domestics as she can obtain.
Where good domestics are scarce, it is a very great mistake to attempt
to live in _a large house_. The labor of house cleaning, and window
cleaning, the sweeping, the care of furniture, and many other items of
labor, are much increased by enlarging the size of the house. In the
country, where good help is scarce, a house on the plan of one of the
cottages drawn in the Domestic Economy, with _bed presses_ instead of
chambers, will be found to be a great saving of labor, and the expense
that might be incurred in building, furnishing, and taking care of
chambers, can be laid out in making conveniences for carrying water,
and furnishing the kitchen properly. The drawings for this purpose in
the Domestic Economy will be found useful in this respect.
In cities, nothing is more pernicious to a housekeeper’s health, than
going up and down stairs, and a woman who has good taste and good
sense, will not, for the sake of _show_, keep _two_ parlors on the
ground floor and her nursery above and kitchen below. One of these
parlors will be taken for her nursery and bedroom, even should all her
acquaintance wonder how it _can_ be, that a wife and mother should
think her health and duties of more importance than two dark parlors
shut up for company.
When a woman has good sense and good taste, these are some of the
things she will not do.
She will not be so anxious to obtain admission into any circle as to
seek it by a conformity to its fashions, which will involve her in
labor, or expenses that lessen domestic comfort, or are inappropriate
to her income.
She will not be particularly anxious to know what the fashion is, in
dress and furniture, nor give up any important duty or pursuit to
conform to it. Nor will she be disturbed if found deficient in these
particulars, nor disturb others by making apologies, or giving reasons.
She will not, while all that is _in sight_ to visiters, or to out-door
observers, is in complete order, and in expensive style, have her
underclothing, her bedroom, her kitchen, and her nursery ill furnished,
and all in disorder. She will not attempt to show that she is genteel,
and belongs to the aristocracy, by a display of profusion, by talking
as if she was indifferent to the cost of things, or by seeming ashamed
to economize. These things are marks of a vulgar, unrefined person,
that fancies that it is _money_, and not _character_, that makes the
lady. And by persons of education and refinement, such things are
always regarded as indicating a vulgar, uncultivated mind.
Let a young housekeeper, then, adopt these maxims as her guide in
regulating the style of her dress, furniture, table, and the size of
her house.
Do not begin housekeeping in the style in which you should end it, but
begin on a plain and small scale, and increase your expenditures as
your experience and means are increased.
Be determined to live _within_ your income, and in such a style that
you can secure time to improve your own mind, and impart some of your
own advantages to others.
Try to secure _symmetry_ in your dress, furniture, style of living, and
charities. That is, do not be profuse in one direction, and close and
pinching in another.
Cultivate a taste for _intellectual_ pleasures, _home_ pleasures, and
the pleasures of _benevolence_.
Have some _regular plan_ for the employment of your time, and in this
plan have chief reference to making home pleasant to your husband and
children. It will save them from a thousand snares, and you from many
sorrows.