MEN WITH WOMEN. When traveling with a
woman, a man should see to the checking
and care of her baggage.
MEN. As it is exceedingly trying and difficult
for a woman to stand in a railroad train while
it is in motion, it is the height of good manners
for a man to offer her his seat and to
insist on her taking it.
EXPENSES. On a short boat or railroad trip a
man should pay the expenses of a woman
who accompanies him by his invitation. But
on a long trip she should insist on paying
her share, and he should accept her decision.
Of course, he is at liberty, however, to pay
all the expenses of slight entertainments-as,
fruit, magazines, etc.
He should see to the care of her baggage
and all other details.
PARLOR-CAR. When traveling a long distance
accompanied by a woman, a man should secure
seats in the parlor-car.
While it is admissible to offer assistance to
a woman traveling in a parlor-car without an
escort, it should be done in the most polite
and delicate manner, and be perfectly agreeable to her.
WOMEN. If a woman arrives at a strange place,
especially a large city, and no one meets her,
she should ask the station porter to attend to
her baggage and all such details, and, if
traveling farther, to see to her ticket and to
find for her the right train.
If at the end of her journey she gives him
the address she desires to go to and her trunk
checks, he should procure a carriage for her.
This saves her much worry and annoyance
and needless risk.
The same suggestions apply to steamboat
travel.
EXPENSES. If a woman is asked by a man to
take a short boat or railroad trip, he should
pay her fare and all other expenses. But if
on a long trip--as, a summer outing--and she
is escorted by a man, she should insist on
paying her own fare and all expenses, allowing
him, however, to pay the expenses of
slight entertainment--as, fruit, magazines,
etc.
PARLOR-CAR. Her escort should attend to all
details of traveling. If she is traveling
alone, she should always ride in the parlor-car
and have the porter attend to her wants.
While it may be proper to accept in a parlor-car
attentions from a man if he is accompanied
by a woman, the greatest caution is
required if he is alone; in fact, it is well to be
on one's guard, when traveling alone, against
the attentions of both men and women.
TREASURY, SECRETARY OF--HOW ADDRESSED. An official
letter begins: Sir, and ends: I have, Sir, the
honor to remain your most obedient servant
A social letter begins: My Dear MR. Wilson,
and ends: I have the honor to remain
most sincerely yours.
The address on the envelope is: Hon. John
J. Wilson, Secretary Of Treasury.
TROUSSEAU, WEDDING. The bride exhibits the trousseau
at a dinner given to the bridesmaids and
maid of honor a few days before the wedding.
TURNING DOWN CORNER OF VISITING-CARDS. This
should not be done.
TUXEDO. The Tuxedo coat and waistcoat are worn
at all informal affairs when no women are
present, such as small theatre parties (when
not occupying a box), bowling and card
parties, restaurants, and the like.
It may be worn on the street in the
evening with a low hat. A black tie should
always be worn, and never, under any
circumstances, a white one.
See also EVENING DRESS--MEN.
UMBRELLAS.
MEN CALLING ON WOMEN. When making a
formal or brief call, the umbrella should be
left in the hall.
CARRYING. Umbrellas should be carried
vertically, never horizontally, thereby endangering
other persons' eyes. Especially is this
important when entering cars or going up long
flights of steps--as, at an elevated railroad
station.
USHERS. A sufficient number of ushers should be
provided for to allow of two for each aisle.
A good plan is to have one selected as the
master of ceremonies, and for him to go to
the church on the wedding-day in ample
time to personally see that all the details
have been carried out. They should be
present at all rehearsals.
The ushers are usually presented by the
groom with some small trinket, such as a
pin, as a souvenir of the occasion.
CALLS. The ushers should call upon the married
couple as soon as the latter have returned
from their wedding trip.
CHURCH. The ushers should arrive at the
church before the guests.
Each usher should have a list of all the
intended guests for whom special places are set
aside, and should check off the names of the
guests as they arrive. He should know the
various guests and where to place them; but
if he does not know them personally, he
should consult his list.
The upper ends of the middle aisles of
both sides are usually reserved for invited
guests, and are distinguished from the rest
of the church by having a white ribbon or a
string of flowers stretched across the aisle.
The immediate family and special guests
occupy the front seats, the family and the
guests of the bride taking the left side and
those of the groom the right side of the
aisle. Other guests should be given the best
seats, according to their priority in arriving.
It is in bad taste for an usher to reserve
seats for his own friends as against the
first-comers.
In seating guests, the usher should give
his left arm to a woman and escort her to
her seat while her escort follows.
Before the arrival of the bridal party the
ushers take the ribbons at either end, and,
walking the length of the aisle, close it
against intrusion. Upon the arrival of the
bride they form in pairs in the vestibule and
lead the procession, followed by the bridesmaids,
also in pairs. When they approach
the altar they separate, one-half to the right
and one-half to the left. The bridesmaids do
likewise, and stand in front of the ushers.
At the conclusion of the ceremony they
follow last in the procession to the vestibule,
where, after giving their best wishes to the
bride and congratulations to the groom, they
hasten as soon as possible to the bride's home
to assist in introducing and meeting the
guests at the reception or breakfast.
DRESS. At a morning or afternoon wedding they
wear black frock coats.
At an evening wedding they wear full
evening dress, also white kid gloves, which are
not removed during the ceremony.
Hats should be left in the vestibule.
FLOWERS. If the boutonniers are given by the
bride, they should go to her house to receive
them and to have her place them in the lapels
of their coats; or the boutonniers may be
kept at the church in the care of the sexton.
GLOVES. For morning or an afternoon wedding
the gloves are gray. At an evening wedding
the gloves are white kid. The gloves are
not removed during the ceremony.
JEWELRY. They wear the scarf-pins or cuff-
buttons given to them by the groom.
NECKTIES. At a morning or afternoon wedding
the neckties are usually of some delicate color.
At an evening wedding the neckties are
white, as is customary with evening dress.
WEDDING BREAKFAST. The ushers pair off with
the bridesmaids, and are usually seated at a
table assigned to them.
WEDDING RECEPTIONS. The ushers, should
introduce the guests to the groom and bride,
calling the latter "Mr. and Mrs. A.," beginning
with the relatives and friends, and continuing
with the others till all have been introduced.
In introducing the guests, the usher should
offer his arm to the woman, and if not
knowing her, should ask her her name, while her
escort follows and is introduced at the same
time. The bride may request the usher to
introduce the guests to the parents.