ADDRESSING.
See ADDRESSING AND SIGNING LETTERS,
and also under title of person addressed
--as, GOVERNOR, MAYOR, etc.
WRITTEN AFTER HOUSE PARTIES. If the visit
has been more than two days in length, a
guest should write to the hostess a short
letter, telling of his pleasant visit and safe
journey home.
CONCLUSION OF. See CONCLUSION OF A LETTER.
OF CONDOLENCE. See CONDOLENCE, LETTERS OF.
OF INTRODUCTION. See INTRODUCTION, LETTERS OF.
LETTUCE leaves should not be cut, but folded up with
a fork, and then lifted to the mouth. In the
event of these being too large for this treatment,
they should be broken into suitable
pieces with the fork.
LICENSE, MARRIAGE. A license, when required by
State law, should be obtained by the groom
and handed to the officiating clergyman the
day before the ceremony. Usually a small fee
is charged, and the details, when entered upon
the clerk's records, are open to public inspection.
The day need not be named, and until
the marriage is solemnized the license has no
binding effect.
LUNCHEONS. Usually only women are invited to
these entertainments. Oddities, such as pink,
blue, and yellow luncheons, are not in good
taste. They should be as simple as possible.
Informal luncheons are the same as informal
breakfasts. A more formal luncheon
is proper when introducing a special guest.
Small tables are used, and diagrams of their
arrangement are placed in the dressing-room,
designating the places of the guests.
CALLS. Calls should be made a week after
entertainment.
WOMEN. Women dress in visiting toilettes and
wear their bonnets, laying aside their wraps
in the dressing-room. Gloves should be removed
at table.
After coffee, the guests should take their
leave, making some gracious remark to the
hostess.
Calls should be made a week after the
entertainment.
GIVEN BY BACHELORS. See Bachelors' Luncheons.
GUESTS. Only women, as a rule, attend luncheons.
For further details, see LUNCHEONS--WOMEN.
HOSTESS. Introductions take place in the parlor.
At the appointed hour the hostess leads the
way to the drawing-room, followed by the
guests.
The hostess and principal guest should sit
at one of the centre-tables. Between the
courses the hostess and two of the women
seated with her rise and change seats with
others. This may be done by others also if
they desire. They take their napkins with
them.
HOURS. The hour is from 1 to 2 P.M.
INTRODUCTIONS. Introductions take place in the
parlor.
INVITATIONS. Cards are engraved, and sent two
weeks in advance.
MEN--LEAVING CARDS. If men are invited, they
should, after a luncheon, leave a card for host
and hostess, whether the invitation was accepted
or not; or it may be sent by mail or
messenger, with an apology for so doing.
MAIDS--TIPS. It is customary for guests leaving
after a visit at a private house to remember
the maid who has taken care of the room
by giving her a reasonable tip. A woman
should give more for extra attention.
MAID OF HONOR. This important person is selected
by the bride, and acts for her in all details,
being virtually mistress of ceremonies and filling
a position requiring administrative ability
and tact. She acts in the same capacity as
the best man does for the groom.
She is invited, of course, to the dinner
given by the bride to the bridesmaids.
She fulfils whatever duties the bride has
been unable, from press of time, to attend to
--as, making calls, etc.
CHURCH. She goes to the church with one of
the parents of the bride, and meets the bride
and the bridesmaids in the vestibule. In the
procession she follows behind the bridesmaids,
and precedes the flower girl, if there
is one--otherwise the bride. On their arrival
at the altar she takes her place by the side of
the bride, and is ready at the plighting of the
troth to take the bride's glove and bouquet,
and returns them to her at the end of the
ceremony.
After the congratulations of the clergyman,
she parts the bridal veil, arranges the
bride's train, and follows the bride down the
aisle to the vestibule.
Here, after giving her best wishes to the
bride, she takes her carriage to the bride's
house to take part in the reception or breakfast.
DAY OF WEDDING. She should be at the house
of the bride on the morning of the wedding-day
to assist the bride's mother, to see that
the trousseau is all ready and packed, that
the bridesmaids are on time, and to attend
to the many details liable to arise.
DRESS. Her dress should be some delicate color
other than white, so as not to detract from
the bride, and should be subdued in comparison.
It may be, and usually is, more
elegant in quality than that of the bridesmaids.
WEDDING BREAKFAST. The best man escorts the
maid of honor, and they are usually seated
at the bridal table.
WEDDING RECEPTION. She stands next the
bride to receive with her, and also retires
with her to assist the latter in exchanging
her wedding dress for the traveling-dress.
It is her privilege to cast a slipper at the
carriage which takes away the married
couple, and her duty to prepare packages of
rice, which are given to the guests to be
thrown after the married couple as they
leave the house.
MAIL, INVITATIONS SENT BY. All invitations should be
sent by mail and verbal ones avoided.
MAIL OR MESSENGER, SENDING CARDS BY.
See CARDS, VISITING--SENDING BY MAIL OR MESSENGER.
MAN SERVANTS--TIPS. It is customary for a man,
at the end of a house party, to give to the
man servant who has acted as his valet a
suitable tip.
MARCHIONESS-HOW ADDRESSED. An official letter
begins: Madam, and ends: I have the honor
to remain your Ladyship's most obedient
servant.
The address on the envelope is: To the
Most Noble the Marchioness of Kent.
A social letter begins: Dear Lady Kent,
and ends: Believe me, dear Lady Kent, very
sincerely yours.
The address on the envelope is: To the
Marchioness of Kent.
MARCHIONESS, DOWAGER--HOW ADDRESSED. An official
letter begins: Madam, and ends: I have
the honor to remain your Ladyship's most
obedient servant.
A social letter begins: Dear Lady Kent,
and ends: Believe me, dear Lady Kent, very
sincerely yours.
The address on the envelope in both cases
is: To the Dowager Marchioness of Kent, or
To Mary, Marchioness of Kent.
MARQUIS--HOW ADDRESSED. An official letter begins:
My Lord Marquis, and ends: I have the
honor to be your Lordship's obedient servant.
The address on the envelope is: To the
Most Noble the Marquis of Kent.
A social letter begins: Dear Lord Kent
and ends: Believe me, Lord Kent, very sincerely
yours.
The address on the envelope is: To the
Marquis of Kent.