GLOVES._The Book of Good Manners; a Guide to Polite Usage for All Social Functions

MEN. At the opera or theatre, if in full dress,

gloves may be dispensed with, but they are

worn with street dress. With formal evening

dress, white kid gloves should be worn.

For afternoon dress, gloves should be of

undressed kid, gray, tan, or brown. When

calling, the glove of the right hand should

be removed upon entering the drawing-room.

Gloves should not be worn at high teas.

MEN--AFTERNOON DRESS. Undressed kid

gloves of a dark color are worn.

MEN-BALLS. Men should always wear gloves

at all balls, in summer or winter, in town or

city.

MEN-CALLING ON WOMEN. Gloves need not

be removed at a formal or brief call.

MEN-DANCES. Gloves should be worn at formal

dances, and should be put on before entering

the room.

MEN-HIGH TEA. Men do not wear gloves.

MEN-MOURNING. Black or dark-colored gloves

should be worn.

MEN--SHAKING HANDS. At weddings, operas,

or dances, and on all very formal occasions,

men wear gloves. In shaking hands with

women on these occasions gloves should not

be removed.

If a hostess wears gloves at any formal

affair, a man wears his when he shakes hands

with her.

A man with hands gloved should never

shake hands with a woman without an apology

for so doing, unless she likewise wears gloves.

A sudden meeting, etc., may make a hand-shaking

in gloves unavoidable. Unless the

other party is also gloved, a man should say:

"Please excuse my glove."

WOMEN. Gloves should always be worn on the

street.

At dinners, or formal teas, women should

remove their gloves at the table and place

them in their laps.

At dinners and formal teas, when the

women have retired to the drawing-room,

they may resume their gloves or not, or

follow the example of the hostess.

At informal teas or "At Homes" the

hostess need not wear gloves.

BREAKFAST. Gloves should be removed at table.

DINNER. Women may remove their gloves at

table, and it is not necessary to replace

them. They should be laid in the lap. The

hostess generally determines by her own

actions whether the women should resume

gloves or not.

MOURNING. Gloves may be of black kid, suede,

or black silk. In the evening, black suede

or glace, or white suede should be worn.

White gloves with black stitching should not

be worn in the evening.

BRIDE. See BRIDE--GLOVES.

GROOM. See GROOM--GLOVES.

USHERS. See USHERS--GLOVES.

GODFATHER. A man asked to be one of the sponsors

at a christening ceremony should reply by a

written note or by calling in person.

He should call immediately on the parents

and send flowers to the mother, and express

himself as pleased at the compliment.

He should send a present to the child,

usually a piece of jewelry or some silver, and,

if a wealthy relative, may deposit a sum of

money to the child's credit, and present him

with the bank-book.

He should also send with his present one

of his calling cards, on which is written some

appropriate sentiment.

It is his privilege, when the wine is about

to be drunk after the ceremony, to first

propose the health of the child and then the

health of the mother.

The duties of the godfather at the ceremony

consist of assenting to the vows.

GODMOTHER. A woman asked to be a sponsor at a

christening should immediately accept or

decline the invitation either by a written note

or a call.

She should also call on the parents and send

flowers to the mother, and express pleasure

at the compliment paid to her.

It is always customary for the godmother

to give the child a gift, such as a christening

robe, a cradle, or some piece of silver. If

the latter is sent, it should have the child's

name on it. With the gift should be sent

the sponsor's calling card, with some

appropriate sentiment on it. It is customary to

send the gift to the child itself.

GOLDEN WEDDINGS. Fifty years after the wedding-day

comes the Golden Wedding. The invitations

may bear the words: NO PRESENTS

RECEIVED, and congratulations may be extended

in accepting or declining the invitation. An

entertainment is usually provided for.

The gifts are, appropriately, articles of

gold, and this is a fitting occasion for giving

fifty gold pieces of either, five, ten, or twenty

dollar denomination. The invitations are

appropriately engraved in gold, and the

decorations golden in color.

GOVERNOR OF A STATE--HOW ADDRESSED. An official

letter begins: Sir, and ends: I have the honor,

sir, to remain your obedient servant.

A social letter begins: Dear Governor

Wilson, and ends: Believe me, most sincerely

yours.

The address on the envelope is: Governor

John J. Wilson.

GRAPES AND PLUMS should be eaten one by one, and

the pits allowed to fall noiselessly into the

half-closed hand and then transferred to the

plate.

GROOM. The groom selects his best man, usually

an unmarried intimate friend, though a married

man or widower is permissible. After

consultation with the bride he calls upon the

clergyman, the organist, the sexton, and invites

the ushers.

When he is informed by his bride of the

day selected for the wedding, he should ask

her mother to accept the day agreed upon.

He may make what present he desires to

the bride, and, if he also wishes, to the brides-

maids. If any gifts are sent to the groom,

they should bear his name or cipher.

He should furnish the bride's family with

a list of names of persons to whom he desires

to have invitations sent, designating his

preference for those to be asked to the wedding

breakfast or reception.

BEFORE CEREMONY. The day before the ceremony,

or sooner, he gives into the safe-

keeping of the best man the ring and the fee

for the clergyman.

He also sends or hands the marriage license

(if one is needed) to the officiating

clergyman before the ceremony.

CHURCH, It is not customary for the groom to

see his bride on the wedding-day till he

meets her at the altar. The groom and the

best man usually breakfast together on the

wedding-day and arrive in ample time at the

church.

Upon the arrival of the bride in the

vestibule, the clergyman enters the chancel,

followed by the groom and the best man. The

groom then steps forward, and stands at the

left of the clergyman, facing the audience. It

is a good plan for both the groom and best

man to leave their hats in the vestry, but if

the groom has not done so, he gives his hat

and gloves to the best man on the approach

of the bride, and advances to meet her. He

gives her his left arm, and together they stand

before the clergyman.

At the proper moment he receives the ring

from the best man and hands it to the bride.

It is no longer in good form for him to kiss

the bride after the ceremony, but after receiving

the congratulations of the clergyman

to give her his right arm, and together they

lead the procession to the vestibule.

CLERGYMAN. While the bride selects the officiating

clergyman, it is the place of the groom

to call upon him in regard to the details, and

to pay him the fee.

If the clergyman from any cause--as, living

outside of the State--cannot legally perform

the ceremony, a magistrate should be present

to legalize the marriage, and should receive

a fee.

DRESS-EVENING WEDDING. He wears full

evening dress.

DRESS-MORNING OR AFTERNOON WEDDING.

He wears afternoon dress, consisting of a

double-breasted frock coat of dark material,

waistcoat, single or double (preferably the

latter), of same material, or more usually of

some fancy material of late design. The

trousers should be of light pattern, avoiding

extremes. The linen should be white, and

the tie white or light material, and the gloves

of gray suede. These, with patent-leather

shoes and a silk hat, complete the costume.

EXPENSES. He pays for the license fee, the

organist's fee, and a fee to the sexton.

Nothing less than five dollars in gold,

clean bills, or a check in a sealed envelope,

or more, according to social position and

financial income, should be the clergyman's

fee. Should there be one or two additional

clergymen, he pays a fee to each, the fee of

the officiating clergyman being double that

of the others.

He pays for the carriages of the ushers,

the one for himself and the best man, and

the one which takes away the married couple

on their wedding trip.

He pays for the bouquet carried by the

bride, and, if he wishes, for the bouquets

carried by the bridesmaids. He also pays for

the cuff-buttons or scarf-pins, and, if he

wishes, for the gloves and neckties given

to the ushers and the best man.

He pays for the wedding-ring--a plain gold

one, with initials of bride and groom and

date of marriage engraved thereon. He may

also present some souvenirs to the

bridesmaids.

He may give a farewell dinner a few

evenings before the wedding to his best man,

ushers, and a few intimate friends. He sits

at the head of the table and the best man

opposite, and on this occasion he may give

the scarf-pins or cuff-buttons, also neckties

and gloves, if he wishes, to the best man and

ushers.

FAREWELL DINNER. See BACHELOR'S FAREWELL

DINNER.

GLOVES. At a morning or afternoon wedding,

the groom wears gray suede gloves.

At an evening wedding he wears white kid

gloves.

WEDDING BREAKFAST. The bride and groom

enter first, and are seated at the principal

table.

WEDDING RECEPTION. The groom and his bride

stand side by side and receive the

congratulations of all present. The guests serve

them refreshments.