The prevalent habit of going to Europe is curious. For that matter the

habits of contemporary Americans are very curious--the motor-car habit

so conspicuous just now, their travel habit, much cultivated by farmers

in winter and by city people in summer. They are remarkable habits;

instructive, no doubt; expensive, but somehow at present there is money

for them. Cordelia says she has traveled, and need not go on the road

again for some time. I haven’t, but I am content to wait until it is

convenient. This town of New York is trying to live in in some ways,

but it can be said for it that here a great many things are brought to

the door. There are pictures here, and very pleasing objects in the

shop windows, and a variety of people, and spoken languages enough

to satisfy the most ambitious, and a mighty interesting assortment

of architecture, and more making while you wait. Some Americans in

time past have been to Europe to good purpose--as witness our newer

architecture--and some keep going there to pretty good purpose every

year. That makes it the easier to stay at home and say _Cœlum non

animum_ to oneself, and grub along. Cordelia and I bestow some of our

spare attention on the growth of characters. They don’t seem to grow

so very much on the road. Intelligence and powers of comparison may

get a boost in the school of itineracy, but character not so probably.

Corlear Van Terminal has been to Europe once or twice every year since

I can remember, and gads constantly when at home, and all but sleeps in

a motor-car, and yet, so far as I can see, he’s always just the same as

he was the last time. I can’t see that he’s got ahead one lap. Chapman

says the soul of man requires to be fed on the Bible and the Greek

poets. One can do that at home, and one can work at home, and have

faith and endure and plug along--all quite useful to character, and as

developing in some ways as travel and Europe can be in others.

Cordelia and I have been reading about the Wesleys and the characters

they got and how they got them. There were eighteen children or

thereabouts, and a dozen or so grew up. Fine people, too; admirable

stock and developed by discipline, privation, and pious training, all

tempered by affection, humor, and lots of quality in the trainers. It

makes you feel that character is a very expensive product, and hardly

to be had at the ten-cent store where we and our contemporaries are

prone to go for it.

The Wesleys were poor; very much poorer than is thought at all suitable

in these times, even for the reverend clergy or for the teachers

of our youth. The father was a clergyman; the mother was a lady of

excellent abilities and education, and they lived in the seventeenth

and eighteenth centuries. Food was plain and hard to get in that

family, and raiment was only slightly related to embellishment, and

sickness was frequent and poverty perpetual; but with what audacity

those Wesleys took hold on life! It makes our timid overtures look

like mill-pond voyaging. Really it is wholesome to sit by the window,

within ear-shot of the rattle of the street-cars and the chug-chug of

the automobiles, and read of the past straits of the straitened and the

courage of the bold, and observe on what shoulders of men and women,

and through what bogs of privation, civilization has come along.

Not that the Wesleys had a preference for privation. The Reverend

Samuel scrambled actively to maintain his family, but the increasing

family outran his best diligence. We have changed all that. Families

are less apt to outrun the paternal diligence in these days. So far as

numbers go, they trudge along respectfully behind the census man and

look over his shoulder at the figures. But that change is all in the

day’s work, and springs out of changed conditions. People in our time

are not curious enough about the processes of nature to raise very

large families in order that they may watch near at hand the workings

of the rule about the survival of the fittest. What they can observe

of the application of that rule in written biography and among the

neighbors seems to suffice, and in their own personal speculation they

seem to care for no more progeny than they think they can contrive

survival for, whether they are fittest or not. So butts in man, and

tries to adjust the processes of nature to match his judgment and his

taste in expenditure.

When it gets hot Cordelia will be going off to her father’s country

palace in Connecticut, varying that experience in due time by a sojourn

in my father’s country palace in New Jersey, and I shall spend with

her so much of the time as my urban duties permit. That will save

us from dependence on any fresh-air funds this year. Parents are a

considerable convenience, especially nowadays, when so many of them

have learned their place, and especially in this town of New York,

where it costs all you can earn to provide a winter habitation, and

where the young wives of earnest workers like me are apt to be a good

deal out of a job in summer. Much more systematic provision is made

to carry my kind of man through the summer than for Cordelia’s kind

of woman--the clubs, for example. For man and wife at our stage of

life parents, duly qualified and equipped, are a very suitable and

timely provision. Indeed, I feel sometimes that the worthlessness and

miscellaneous degeneracy of parents in these times is exaggerated. I

don’t say this by way of casting an anchor to the windward, nor out

of mere magnanimity, but because I honestly think so. People say that

parental authority is all gone. Some think it good riddance; others

lament. Since democracy came to be the fashion everybody wants his own

way more than formerly, and gets it rather more, children included. But

parental direction is still a factor in life, and parental influence

is enormous, and influence gets to the springs of action and character

even more effectually than dogmatic authority. It is much harder

for a fool father to blight a Mirabeau nowadays, and those Wesley

parents that I spoke of might in our time have meddled less with their

daughters’ marriages, thereby, possibly, avoiding some disasters; for

the Wesley girls chose ill, but their parents, in choosing for them,

chose still worse. Parents doubtless realize the limitations of their

calling better than they did, and a good deal more is done in these

days than formerly to piece out their deficiencies and help them with

their duties. Doctors give them better advice than the Wesley parents

got; schools in this country--in spite of the constant stream of

criticism and deprecation which schools endure--average surely a great

deal better than schools did fifty years ago. The raising and training

of the young, being as important a matter as there is in sight, has had

protracted attention from some of the best minds, and has had money

showered on it in a huge profusion. All that has been more or less

helpful to parents, but it does not warrant the idea, so popular among

current commentators, that parents have come to be supernumeraries on

the public stage. That is a ridiculous notion, the absurdity of which

would be demonstrated in about half a day if parents universally should

quit work and take a half-holiday.

We ought to save a little money this summer living on our fathers. It

is a grand way to save. I don’t know of a better. It makes frugality

possible without self-denial--at least without privation. They say

there is excellent sport to be got out of self-denial, and I read that

saving money and the repression of the impulse to spend it make like

everything for the development of character. I dare say that is so.

It is all a part of self-control, and of government by intelligence

instead of by impulse. And self-control, including timely and suitable

repression of expenditure, means freedom, and power to give, and

the power to do, and the power to jump in and seize an opportunity.

Possibly I can acquire the accomplishment of not buying some things

that I want, even though I have the money to pay for them. That will be

a wonderful acquisition to me, though I have got so far as to be mighty

particular about what I buy on credit. One has got to get as far as

that if he is going to get married on such an income as ours.

That was a great stroke--getting married. I don’t see how I had the

nerve to do it. Probably I hadn’t. I dare say we got married on

Cordelia’s nerve, for when you come down to the facts it was she who

took most of the chances, and really made the choice. To choose and to

decide things seem in our day to be very largely women’s work. I am

more and more impressed with that as I go more and more to Cordelia

to get her views. I get them on pretty much everything except points

of law. I am the specialist on that and on the earning of money, but

she is the specialist on the arrangement of life. I guess she is an

obedient wife, but in practice I seem to make suggestions and she to

make decisions. She makes them with great consideration and indulgence

for me, and with a degree of judgment that saves me much mental effort.

The opportunities of mental effort that I enjoy below Canal Street,

between ten o’clock and six, suffice to keep my mind exercised, and

I am no glutton about making unnecessary mental efforts after I get

uptown. Perhaps that simplifies life for Cordelia. I wonder what women

do whose husbands don’t have to work!

III

COMMODITIES AND CONTENTMENT

We have been out to Orange County to spend a week-end with the

Peytons. They are about our age, but differ from us in condition in

that they have adequate means of support. Archie Peyton got them by

inheritance, and they are very ample and enable Archie and Eleanor to

have all the desirable things and do everything they want to. They try

conscientiously to live up to their opportunities, making pretty hard

work of it, but that’s natural, for it _is_ hard work. They went abroad

in the summer, and now they are providing country lodging and food and

sport for their available friends. This sport is golf and tennis and

road exercises, relieved by dabs of riding after hounds, for the Orange

County Hunt meets out in their country. Eleanor says it’s nice, except

that they have to invite too many people who have had too much to eat

and are trying to get thin, whereas it would be more satisfactory to

be inviting people who have had too little to eat and were trying to

get fat.

That’s not why they asked us, for we had been living on our parents all

summer and were quite plump. They have got motor-cars, horses, butlers,

valets, chrysanthemums, greenhouses, and all the apparatus of pride.

For us on sixty dollars a week it is rather expensive even to nibble

at it. We can’t do it often, but we saved money living on our parents,

and the fall is a grand season, and to fill one’s lungs with the air

of it and one’s vision with autumn colors is worth some fiscal strain,

and it always does me good, too, spiritually even more than physically,

to get over a little easy country on a horse. Besides, Archie is my

client, and that’s important. I have discovered that one of the great

secrets of prosperity and advancement in this world, especially in the

profession that I affect, is to have one’s coevals grow up and prosper

and have business, especially law business, that somebody must be paid

to do. When people have these opportunities of lawful gain to bestow

they seem to like to bestow them on habitual friends, provided that

they have any and can persuade themselves that they are competent. A

great deal of opportunity goes by association--is bound to.

To be honest, I did not make all these discoveries solely on my own

hook. Though they are simple enough. Major Brace expounded some of them

to me after dinner. He gave me great encouragement in the effort to

exist. Promotion, he said, cometh neither from the East nor the West,

but from the cemetery, so it was almost sure to come to any one that

could hold out; and in the long run a man who was sober, competent and

diligent, and intelligent about his associations couldn’t very well

miss it. There were so many advantageous jobs to distribute and each

generation had them in turn, as the world and what is in it came to be

its property. Moreover, as things go now and with us, each generation

has a lot more things and opportunities and good employments than the

generation that preceded it, not only absolutely, but _per capita_,

because the increase of wealth and business is outrunning the increase

of population. It wasn’t a scramble, the Major insisted, for a share in

a limited quantity of goods, but for an unlimited quantity, and the

harder the scramble the more there was to distribute.

All that came out of a discussion whether we should restrict our wants

or try to satisfy them. Try to satisfy them, the Major said. Effort

in that direction enriches and develops civilization. It tends to

increase the supply of commodities. It is not the satisfied people,

nor the people who are content to go without, that make civilization

go forward, but the unsatisfied ones, who want a lot of things they

have not got, and get out and go after them and build railroads and

factories and improve agriculture and invent machinery and multiply

automobiles and take an interest in aeroplanes and try to accumulate

money and keep it employed.

“Are you doing all those things, Major?” said I.

“Me? Oh no! I belong to the police. My job is to help to keep order

and protect property. I never had one of the large-sized appetites

for commodities--just food, clothes, shelter, money in the bank, and

something to give away, and protection against rainy days, and enough

to keep my wife and children off the Charity Organization when I get

run over by a motor-car--that’s all I want. You see, I’m a lazy man and

like to read the newspaper and invite my soul, and everything I can’t

get by working five or six hours a day I go without. Don’t take me for

a pattern. I haven’t got the progress of civilization really at heart.”

“The express-drivers help it on, I suppose, Major, when they strike for

more pay?” They were striking at that time.

“No doubt. All that should help distribution, provided the funds they

are all striking to share exist in sufficient quantity. Distribution

is next in importance to production. You’ve got to have something to

distribute, and strikes are not immediately helpful to production, as

you may have noticed, but the organization of labor ought to be helpful

to distribution. Only nowadays when an important strike is won the

cost of it is immediately shifted onto the general public by a gentle

elevation of prices.”

The Major is a lawyer and practises considerably as a trustee, and is

doubtless more concerned with the philosophy of business than if his

energies were enlisted in selling goods and wresting a profit out of

it. “Mankind can be eased considerably in this earthly competition,”

he went on, “by great increases of production, great extensions of

agriculture and manufacturing and transportation, and great economies

in all of them, provided that distribution fairly keeps pace with

production.” It comes nearer to doing so, he thought, than all the

exhorters and socialist people admit, because products have to find a

market; but when it comes to that, this is a fairly roomy world, with

many mouths and backs in it, and transportation is cheap and markets

are world-wide, and goods as yet don’t necessarily pile up on any of us

because there are a lot of them produced.

And so the Major argued in effect that one way to help bring on

the millennium was to increase the production and distribution of

commodities. I suppose that _is_ one way. There must be some connection

between the millennium and civilization. The millennium isn’t going to

swoop down on a world that has no meat in the house and where half the

people live in trees. It is true that it was not a lack of commodities

that drove Eve to eat the apple and brought on working for a living,

and most of us realize that man cannot live by bread alone, and that

with binsful of commodities on every corner free for the taking the

world would not be saved nor the folks in it satisfied and happy. What

an interesting simplification of wants would happen in that case, and

how quickly people would come to ascertain what they really needed and

refuse to be loaded up with anything else! Still, there is a connection

between human progress and wants and the commodities that appease them.

A missionary’s daughter told me once about her father’s experience

with the South-African blacks. Now and then he would make a convert,

and always, if it was a thorough job, the convert would begin to reach

out after civilization--some clothes, a bigger dwelling--presently,

I dare say, a top-hat. It wasn’t all mere acquisitiveness, either,

for some of the incidents of conversion were inconvenient, especially

the troublesome domestic readjustment called for by the theory of the

sufficiency of one wife. Of course, the millennium may swoop down and

find us running about in skins or less, and living on roots, but I bet

it won’t. It is much more likely to be welcomed by flocks of aeroplanes

to an enormously productive earth, worked for all it is worth by

people intelligent enough to have abolished poverty and solved the

problem of distribution.

What does man want here below, anyway? Room and bath, food, clothes, a

newspaper, and a job and fair opportunities to better himself. He has

got the newspaper already. In this country, at least, there are enough

newspapers to go around, and in the cities any one who declines to buy

one can supply himself out of the first ash barrel. There is nothing

so cheap as newspapers, and that is a consequence of the pressure of

commodities on the market. The advertiser pays all but a cent’s worth

of the cost of the newspaper, and would gladly pay that, no doubt, but

for the fear of arousing the reader’s suspicions. How much this has to

do with the fact that I hear of likely young men who come out of the

nurseries of learning and look wistfully at the newspapers and fail to

see attractive jobs on them and go away and do something else, I don’t

know. It may be that likely young men never did troop in large swarms

into newspapering. Banking usually looks better to them, because men

get rich at it, and law because a knowledge of it is no hindrance in

any calling.

The supply of rooms and baths is not so nearly equal to human needs

as the supply of newspapers, but it is gaining on the population. Out

there at the Peytons’ house, for example, it has caught up. In all the

newer country houses hereabouts the great architectural feature is

room and bath. In a Long Island house just completed that I inspected

last spring before the family moved in there were between twenty and

twenty-five bathrooms. There were three in the family, with a liability

to guests if the owner’s wife ever succeeded in getting rested. I

thought this marked a considerable forward stride in civilization.

Church unity still hangs back a bit, but we are getting pretty strong

on plumbing, and the millennium may find us with a bath apiece.

The Peytons hadn’t so many bathrooms, because their house was not so

large as the Long Island house, and they had to save part of it for

clothed appearances; but they had many, and Cordelia and I admired

them very much. Living in a six-hundred-dollar New York flat makes

marvelously for the appreciation of space, light, air, and running

water. Of course the Peytons’ country house had all these blessings,

and, besides, was delightfully fresh and clean and embellished with

very pleasing adornments. “No doubt, Cordelia,” said I, “you might

have had a set of things like this if you had shown a little timely

judgment.” “Possibly;” said Cordelia; “this is a nice set, too. How

many bathrooms shall _we_ need, Peregrine?”

“One--two--four--six; six will do us, I think, with a little management

and a few extra sets of bath-robes and slippers. We don’t want to keep

a plumber. To have more than a dozen makes a home too much like a

hotel.”

But there are a number of things that we shall want before we have

even one house with even six bathrooms in it. I do not greatly

covet a superfluity of bathrooms, though enough of them is one of

the great luxuries of our time. Hot water is one of the leading

valuables of life--one of the things that help to reconcile humanity

to civilization and to offset its interference with such privileges

as living out-of-doors and not having newspapers. That has long been

appreciated. I believe the Greeks liked hot water and made provision to

have it. Certainly the Romans liked it and went in strong for baths.

The English have liked it and had it in fair quantity, along with daily

deluges of cold water. We Americans delight in it and have more of it

already, I suppose, than any people ever had before, and our supply

is constantly increasing and constantly spreading from the cities to

the country. It is cheap, as things go, and there is fair prospect

that there will eventually be enough to go around. To have a universal

supply of hot water and newspapers and a long start toward a universal

supply of what we call education is doing not so ill as things go. I

can wait for the six bathrooms, or even three. We have one now. One is

a great blessing. I suppose it is our egotism that makes us more or

less indifferent to what is not ours and cannot be for the present.

What most of us want is the next thing--the thing almost within our

reach. We don’t think about the things that are altogether beyond the

scope of our fortunes. We do not covet them, nor are we jealous of our

neighbors who have them, unless we conclude that we have too little

because they have too much. If the competition seems to us fair, we

rather like to see prizes go to those who can win them, for a life with

prizes in it for winners, even material prizes, looks richer and more

attractive to most of us than a life planned on the principle of a

division of the gate money among all who come in.

Do you notice how strong the propensity is among all the fairly

comfortable people to consider their own condition and their own

standards as normal and truly desirable, and those of other folks,

whether they have more or less, as a little off? I think that

propensity is a wonderful provision for human happiness. We value, as

a rule, what seems the best thing obtainable for ourselves. Whether it

is abundance or a stimulating degree of privation, we incline to think

it is a good thing for us and a better thing than other people have who

have something different.

“Cordelia,” said I, while we were talking about the bathroom, “you

might have got a better set of things with some other man, but he

would not have the experience or the discipline that I shall have by

the time I have acquired the set of things that you ought eventually

to get with _me_.” There you are! We think we’re better off than the

Peytons because we haven’t got so much as they have, and better off

than the Goves because we’ve got more (mostly prospective) than they

have. _We_ are the standard. We laugh at ourselves, but surely it’s a

fine thing to have so strong a bent toward toleration of things as they

are, and expectation of being pleased with them as they’re going to be.

I suppose it is just a different form of this same self-satisfaction

that makes the teetotalers want to vote away everybody’s grog, and

the college authorities insist that all the boys shall want to be

high scholars like themselves, and the appeased women deprecate the

agitations of the unappeased for woman’s suffrage.

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