1. Women naturally love courage, force and firmness in men. The
ideal man in a woman's eye must be heroic and brave. Woman naturally
despises a coward, and she has little or no respect for a bashful man.
2. Woman naturally loves her lord and master. Women who desperately
object to be overruled, nevertheless admire men who overrule them, and
few women would have any respect for a man whom they could completely
rule and control.
3. Man is naturally the protector of woman; as the male wild animal
of the forest protects the female, so it is natural for man to protect
his wife and children, and therefore woman admires those qualities in
a man which make him a protector.
4. LARGE MEN.--Women naturally love men of strength, size and fine
physique, a tall, large and strong man rather than a short, small and
weak man. A woman always pities a weakly man, but rarely ever has any
love for him.
5. SMALL AND WEAKLY MEN.--All men would be of good size in frame
and flesh, were it not for the infirmities visited upon them by the
indiscretion of parents and ancestors of generations before.
6. YOUTHFUL SEXUAL EXCITEMENT.--There are many children born healthy
and vigorous who destroy the full vigor of their generative organs
in youth by self-abuse, and if they survive and marry, their children
will have small bones, small frames and sickly constitutions. It is
therefore not strange that instinct should lead women to admire men
not touched with these symptoms of physical debility.
7. GENEROSITY.--Woman generally loves a generous man. Religion absorbs
a great amount of money in temples, churches, ministerial salaries,
etc., and ambition and appetite absorb countless millions, yet woman
receives more gifts from man than all these combined: she loves a
generous giver. _Generosity and Gallantry_ are the jewels which she
most admires. A woman receiving presents from a man implies that she
will pay him back in love, and the woman who accepts a man's presents,
and does not respect him, commits a wrong which is rarely ever
forgiven.
8. INTELLIGENCE.--Above all other qualities in man, woman admires
his intelligence. Intelligence is man's woman captivating card. This
character in woman is illustrated by an English army officer, as told
by O.S. Fowler, betrothed in marriage to a beautiful, loving heiress,
summoned to India, who wrote back to her:
"I have lost an eye, a leg, an arm, and been so badly marred and
begrimmed besides, that you never could love this poor, maimed
soldier. Yet, I love you too well to make your life wretched by
requiring you to keep your marriage-vow with me, from which I hereby
release you. Find among English peers one physically more perfect,
whom you can love better."
She answered, as all genuine women must answer:
"Your noble mind, your splendid talents, your martial prowess which
maimed you, are what I love. As long as you retain sufficient body to
contain the casket of your soul, which alone is what I admire, I love
you all the same, and long to make you mine forever."
9. SOFT MEN.--All women despise soft and silly men more than all
other defects in their character. Woman never can love a man
whose conversation is flat and insipid. Every man seeking woman's
appreciation or love should always endeavor to show his intelligence
and manifest an interest in books and daily papers. He should read
books and inform himself so that he can talk intelligently upon
the various topics of the day. Even an ignorant woman always loves
superior intelligence.
10. SEXUAL VIGOR.--Women love sexual vigor in men. This is human
nature. Weakly and delicate fathers have weak and puny children,
though the mother may be strong and robust. A weak mother often bears
strong children, if the father is physically and sexually vigorous.
Consumption is often inherited from fathers, because they furnish the
body, yet more women die with it because of female obstructions. Hence
women love passion in men, because it endows their offspring with
strong functional vigor.
11. PASSIONATE MEN--The less passion any woman possesses, the more she
prizes a strong passionate man. This is a natural consequence, for if
she married one equally passionless, their children would be poorly
endowed or they would have none; she therefore admires him who makes
up the deficiency. Hence very amorous men prefer quiet, modest and
reserved women.
12. HOMELY MEN are admired by women if they are large, strong and
vigorous and possess a good degree of intelligence. Looks are trifles
compared with the other qualities which man may possess.
13. YOUNG MAN, If you desire to win the love and admiration of young
ladies, first, be intelligent; read books and papers; remember what
you read, so you can talk about it. Second, be generous and do not
show a stingy and penurious disposition when in the company of ladies.
Third, be sensible, original, and have opinions of your own and do not
agree with everything that someone else says, or agree with everything
that a lady may say. Ladies naturally admire genteel and intelligent
discussions and conversations when there is someone to talk with who
has an opinion of his own. Woman despises a man who has no opinion
of his own; she hates a trifling disposition and admires leadership,
original ideas, and looks up to man as a leader. Women despise all men
whom they can manage, overrule, cow-down and subdue.
14. BE SELF-SUPPORTING.--The young man who gives evidence of thrift is
always in demand. Be enthusiastic and drive with success all that
you undertake. A young man, sober, honest and industrious, holding a
responsible position or having a business of his own, is a prize that
some bright and beautiful young lady would like to draw. Woman admires
a certainty.
15. UNIFORMED MEN.--It is a well known fact that women love uniformed
men. The soldier figures as a hero in about every tale of fiction
and it is said by good authority that a man in uniform has three more
chances to marry than the man without uniform. The correct reason is,
the soldier's profession is bravery, and he is dressed and trained for
that purpose, and it is that which makes him admired by ladies rather
than the uniform which he wears. His profession is also that of a
protector.
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