1. It takes acquaintance to found a noble esteem, but politeness
prepares the way. Indeed, as ontaigne [Transcriber's note: Montaigne?]
says, Courtesy begets esteem at sight. Urbanity is half of affability,
and affability is a charm worth possessing.
2. A pleasing demeanor is often the scales by which the pagan weighs
the Christian. It is not virtue, but virtue inspires it. There are
circumstances in which it takes a great and strong soul to pass under
the little yoke of courtesy, but it is a passport to a greater soul
standard.
3. Matthew Arnold says, "Conduct is three-fourths of character,"
and Christian benignity draws the line for conduct. A high sense of
rectitude, a lowly soul, with a pure and kind heart are elements
of nobility which will work out in the life of a human being at
home--everywhere. "Private refinement makes public gentility."
4. If you would conciliate the favor of men, rule your resentment.
Remember that if you permit revenge or malice to occupy your soul, you
are ruined.
5. Cultivate a happy temper; banish the blues; a cheerful saguine
spirit begets cheer and hope.