To prepare a list of the members of the family who will go to the cemetery
at a funeral, for the undertaker's guidance, arranging them in the order
of the relationship.
Flowers should be sent early in the morning of the day of interment, or on
the previous afternoon. Acknowledgment by note or verbally is expected.
A letter expressive of sympathy in a friend's bereavement should be sent
immediately upon learning of a death.
During an illness, make inquiries at the door, leaving a card with "To
inquire" written upon it. This apprises a friend of your interest in her
troubles, yet makes no claim upon her time.
Men wear mourning bands on their hats, not on the coat sleeve. Borders on
mourning stationery and cards should be narrow.
Invitations to receptions, weddings, and general entertainments, excepting
dancing parties, balls and cotillions, are sent to people in mourning. A
response on black bordered stationery sufficiently indicates the reason
for non-acceptance.