The Blessing of Being with Good People. How Certain Illusions
Were Removed.
1. I began gradually to like the good and holy conversation of
this nun. How well she used to speak of God! for she was a
person of great discretion and sanctity. I listened to her with
delight. I think there never was a time when I was not glad to
listen to her. She began by telling me how she came to be a nun
through the mere reading of the words of the Gospel "Many are
called, and few are chosen." [1] She would speak of the reward
which our Lord gives to those who forsake all things for His
sake. This good companionship began to root out the habits which
bad companionship had formed, and to bring my thoughts back to
the desire of eternal things, as well as to banish in some
measure the great dislike I had to be a nun, which had been very
great; and if I saw any one weep in prayer, or devout in any
other way, I envied her very much; for my heart was now so hard,
that I could not shed a tear, even if I read the Passion through.
This was a grief to me.
2. I remained in the monastery a year and a half, and was very
much the better for it. I began to say many vocal prayers, and
to ask all the nuns to pray for me, that God would place me in
that state wherein I was to serve Him; but, for all this, I
wished not to be a nun, and that God would not be pleased I
should be one, though at the same time I was afraid of marriage.
At the end of my stay there, I had a greater inclination to be a
nun, yet not in that house, on account of certain devotional
practices which I understood prevailed there, and which I thought
overstrained. Some of the younger ones encouraged me in this my
wish; and if all had been of one mind, I might have profited by
it. I had also a great friend [2] in another monastery; and this
made me resolve, if I was to be a nun, not to be one in any other
house than where she was. I looked more to the pleasure of sense
and vanity than to the good of my soul. These good thoughts of
being a nun came to me from time to time. They left me very
soon; and I could not persuade myself to become one.
3. At this time, though I was not careless about my own good, our
Lord was much more careful to dispose me for that state of life
which was best for me. He sent me a serious illness, so that I
was obliged to return to my father's house.
4. When I became well again, they took me to see my sister [3] in
her house in the country village where she dwelt. Her love for me
was so great, that, if she had had her will, I should never have
left her. Her husband also had a great affection for me--at
least, he showed me all kindness. This too I owe rather to our
Lord, for I have received kindness everywhere; and all my service
in return is, that I am what I am.
5. On the road lived a brother of my father [4]--a prudent and
most excellent man, then a widower. Him too our Lord was
preparing for Himself. In his old age, he left all his
possessions and became a religious. He so finished his course,
that I believe him to have the vision of God. He would have me
stay with him some days. His practice was to read good books in
Spanish; and his ordinary conversation was about God and the
vanity of the world. These books he made me read to him; and,
though I did not much like them, I appeared as if I did; for in
giving pleasure to others I have been most particular, though it
might be painful to myself--so much so, that what in others might
have been a virtue was in me a great fault, because I was often
extremely indiscreet. O my God, in how many ways did His Majesty
prepare me for the state wherein it was His will I should serve
Him!--how, against my own will, He constrained me to do violence
to myself! May He be blessed for ever! Amen.
6. Though I remained here but a few days, yet, through the
impression made on my heart by the words of God both heard and
read, and by the good conversation of my uncle, I came to
understand the truth I had heard in my childhood, that all things
are as nothing, the world vanity, and passing rapidly away.
I also began to be afraid that, if I were then to die, I should
go down to hell. Though I could not bend my will to be a nun, I
saw that the religious state was the best and the safest.
And thus, by little and little, I resolved to force myself
into it.
7. The struggle lasted three months. I used to press this reason
against myself: The trials and sufferings of living as a nun
cannot be greater than those of purgatory, and I have well
deserved to be in hell. It is not much to spend the rest of my
life as if I were in purgatory, and then go straight to
Heaven--which was what I desired. I was more influenced by
servile fear, I think, than by love, to enter religion.
8. The devil put before me that I could not endure the trials of
the religious life, because of my delicate nurture. I defended
myself against him by alleging the trials which Christ endured,
and that it was not much for me to suffer something for His sake;
besides, He would help me to bear it. I must have thought so,
but I do not remember this consideration. I endured many
temptations during these days. I was subject to fainting-fits,
attended with fever,--for my health was always weak. I had
become by this time fond of good books, and that gave me life.
I read the Epistles of St. Jerome, which filled me with so much
courage, that I resolved to tell my father of my purpose,--which
was almost like taking the habit; for I was so jealous of my
word, that I would never, for any consideration, recede from a
promise when once my word had been given.
9. My father's love for me was so great, that I could never
obtain his consent; nor could the prayers of others, whom I
persuaded to speak to him, be of any avail. The utmost I could
get from him was that I might do as I pleased after his death.
I now began to be afraid of myself, and of my own weakness--for I
might go back. So, considering that such waiting was not safe
for me, I obtained my end in another way, as I shall now relate.
1. St. Matt. xx. 16: "Multi enim sunt vocati, pauci vero electi."
2. Juana Suarez, in the Monastery of the incarnation, Avila
(Reforma, lib. i. ch. vii. § 7).
3. Maria de Cepeda, married to Don Martin Guzman y Barrientos.
They lived in Castellanos de la Cañada, where they had
considerable property; but in the later years of their lives they
were in straitened circumstances (De la Fuente). See below,
ch. xxxiv. § 24.
4. Don Pedro Sanchez de Cepeda. He lived in Hortigosa, four
leagues from Avila (De la Fuente).