BIRTH CONTROL
§ 214
This chapter is written; but, because of the egoistic-social legislation
of fifty years ago, cannot be printed.
While it is lawful to inform readers that abortion is a crime and in
every way unnatural, the practice of —— and ——, and the use of ——, ——,
——, etc., none of which in any sense causes the death of that which has
begun to live, as is the case in abortion, cannot by law be described.
While it has been conclusively proved that in countries like Holland
where birth control is not only legalized but made a matter of public
instruction, the birth rate declines, _but_ the death rate declines
_still more_, legislators in this country have apparently gone on the
principle that more unintelligent voters were more desirable than fewer
intelligent voters. For where the death rate, due to birth control,
is still less than the birth rate the result is a great increase in
intelligence as well as eventually in population.
FOOTNOTES
[1] One of the questions of a questionnaire submitted to prominent
neurologists, and published in _Mental Hygiene_ (Oct., 1920) was the
following: “Do you consider that absolute continence is always to
be insisted upon, or may it be taught that under certain conditions
intercourse in the unmarried is harmless or beneficial?”
To this question A. A. Brill of New York gave the following answer:
“Years ago I encouraged intercourse in some neurotics who were constantly
worrying about sex. I soon found out that it had not benefited them. The
same factors which produced the original conflicts continued to disturb
them. Now I remove their conflicts by analysis, and then they need no
advice. I have known a number of cases who have successfully abstained
from two to three years following analysis.”
[2] Used in technical sense explained in § 141.
[3] BERMAN: _The Glands Regulating Personality_, N. Y., 1921, p. 96.
[4] _Erotism_ is defined in the dictionaries as a medical word meaning
“abnormal sexual desire.” But that is simply because the doctors got hold
of it first. There is no Greek word _erotism_ nor yet _eroticism_, but
“erotism” has resulted from being the common element in autoerotism and
allerotism and being shorter than eroticism was adopted by the present
writer to name the highest type of the combination of body and soul
mating. He never suspected till he looked up the word that it had a bad
sense in the minds of others. (See also p. 82.)
[5] As will appear in the following chapters (especially § 43),
egoistic-social impulses or instincts are those which include the trends
toward self-maintenance and self-magnification—practically all impulses
that are not truly erotic.
[6] The “playmate” is a new term for an old thing, which does not,
however, imply that present conditions are exactly the same as those of
Sheridan’s day who, in _The School for Scandal_, makes Lady Teazle say:
“You know I admit you as a lover no farther than fashion sanctions,” to
which Joseph Surface replies: “True—a mere Platonic cicisbeo, what every
wife is entitled to.” And the Century Dictionary defines _cicisbeo_ as
“In Italy, since the 17th century, the name given to a professed gallant
and attendant of a married woman; one who dangles about women,” and shows
that the word is derived from _chiche_, little, and _beau_.
“Tame cats” and “house friends” are also names given today, by these
discontented women, to the persons who engage in this form of cicisbeism.
[7] Havelock Ellis, who coined the word autoerotism, defines it as
follows (_Studies in the Psychology of Sex_, Vol. I, page 161): “By
‘autoerotism’ I mean the phenomena of spontaneous sexual emotion
generated in the absence of an external stimulus proceeding, directly or
indirectly, from another person.” The present writer calls autoerotic
those husbands who, in the love episode, secure their own erotic acme, in
which their sexual, if not their erotic, tension is relaxed; but either
do not know or do not care whether their wives reach a corresponding
relaxation. The opposite of autoerotism is allerotism, where the husband
places on the wife’s erotic relaxation a value at least equal to that
which he places on his own.
[8] Hologamy, however (see §§ 187 to 198), depends on a direct and not an
alternating current.
[9] See § 43.
[10] Derived ultimately from _cano_, sing or utter in impassioned tone
and rhythm. Women are more erotically impressed by men’s singing than men
are by women’s.
[11] In § 44.
[12] See § 65.
[13] Further discussed in §§ 100-106.
[14] For a more detailed explanation of mother imago, see the chapter on
Hologamy and Prostitution.
[15] Stekel, W., in _The Homosexual Neurosis_ (Boston, 1922) says: “The
evil effects produced upon the child witnessing marital bickerings,
the household inspiration it receives with regard to judgment-feelings
about women and men, the decisive manner in which parents affect it
when they transfer their conflicts on the child—these capital facts the
life histories of homosexuals given above illustrate very clearly for
anyone willing to look squarely at the truth. We do not yet appreciate
how careful we must be in our relations with the children. Our educators
are still guilty of a serious blunder when they conceive their duty to
be to instil goodness in the child through the instrumentality of fear.
There are only two educational levers: one’s own example and—love. The
healthiest children come from happy marriages. It is love that determines
whether a marriage shall be a happy one and whether the offspring will
be healthy or weak. The unconscious sexual instinct manifesting itself
in love is the guide for the regeneration of the human race. Social
conditions favouring early love marriages are the only social reform to
which I look for results.” (Page 316.)
[16] _The Glands Regulating Personality_, Macmillan, 1921.
[17] See § 187.
[18] §§ 128-169.
[19] Dr. Alice B. Stockham, _Karezza: Ethics of Marriage_, N. Y., 1896.
She recommends that both husband and wife refrain from the erotic acme.
“During a lengthy period of perfect control, the whole being of each is
merged into the other, and an exquisite exaltation experienced. This
may be accompanied by a quiet motion, entirely under subordination of
the will, so that the thrill of passion may not go beyond a pleasurable
exchange.... With abundant time and mutual reciprocity the interchange
becomes satisfactory and complete, without emission or crisis. In the
course of an hour the physical tension subsides, the spiritual exaltation
increases and not uncommonly visions of a transcendent life are seen and
consciousness of new powers experienced.” (Page 25.) She suggests that
such episodes should take place from two weeks to three months apart,
and should be the only type of love episode except where procreation is
desired.
[20] _Beiträge zur Psychologie des Liebeslebens._ Psychoanalytische
Jahrbuch (1910).
[21] Harrow: _Glands in Health and Disease_, N. Y., 1922, p. 105.
[22] For a discussion of masochism see §§ 177, 180.
[23] For a discussion of the Mother-Imago see the chapter on Prostitution.
[24] “When we say that for health any individual requires an adequate
sexual outlet, it must be understood that this outlet may be secured in
a great number of different ways. A person may be having regular and
frequent sexual intercourse (excessive intercourse, in fact) without this
affording him an adequate outlet, or preventing his libido from becoming
dammed up.”—FRINK: _Morbid Fears and Compulsions_, p. 268.
[25] LOMBROSO and FERRERO: ap. ELLIS, op. cit., VI, 415.
[26] § 102.
[27] STEKEL, W.: _The Homosexual Neurosis_, Boston, 1922, p. 117.
INDEX
Acme, § 26, p. 44; § 28, p. 48; § 68, p. 103; § 75, p. 110; § 76,
p. 111; § 81, p. 121; § 89, p. 128; § 96, p. 136; § 97, p. 137;
§ 101, p. 141; § 110, p. 151; § 111, p. 153; § 121, p. 165;
§ 139, p. 193; § 144, p. 197; § 146, p. 202; § 157, p. 221;
§ 199, p. 277
Adult, § 48, p. 77
Affection, § 182, p. 259; § 188, p. 260
All, a woman’s, §§ 82-85, pp. 123-125; § 89, p. 128
Analogy, § 57, p. 91
Anesthesia, § 8, p. 12; § 20, p. 31; § 73, p. 108; § 136, p. 187;
§ 140, p. 193; § 141, p. 195; § 149, p. 206; § 163, p. 228;
§ 181, p. 248; § 199, p. 276
Annihilation, § 132, p. 182
Apperception, § 195, p. 271
Art of Love, § 74, p. 109
Asceticism, § 33, p. 56; § 42, p. 66
Athletic _vs._ Sedentary, § 32, p. 53
Autoerotism, § 20, p. 31; § 21, p. 33; § 23, p. 37; § 27, p. 46;
§ 28, p. 48; § 48, p. 77; § 112, p. 154; § 115, p. 157;
§ 116, p. 159; § 133, p. 183; § 145, p. 198; § 153, p. 214;
§ 155, p. 217
Autosuggestion, § 28, p. 48; § 30, p. 51; § 116, p. 159
Bennett, Arnold, § 18, p. 26
Berman, § 10, p. 13
Binary, § 66, p. 100; § 95, p. 135; § 159, p. 224
Birth Control, § 214, p. 298
Brill, A. A., § 6, p. 7
Charity, § 3, p. 3
Charm, § 17, p. 24; § 18, p. 26; § 73, p. 108
Cicisbeo, § 12, p. 18
Clandestine relations, § 49, p. 78; § 71, p. 105
Coldness (see _Frigidity_.)
Combinations of conscious and unconscious passion, § 189, p. 262
Comparison, § 44, p. 68
Companionship, § 46, p. 73; § 158, p. 222; § 159, p. 224
Compensation, § 156, p. 219
Completeness of Life, § 47, p. 75
Compulsion to repeat, § 146, p. 279
Conflict, § 6, p. 7; § 147, p. 203; § 180, p. 247; § 187, p. 259
Confusion of erotic and egoistic-social, § 40, p. 64; § 135, p. 186;
§ 137, p. 190
Continence, Male, § 100, p. 140
Control, § 5, p. 6; § 23, p. 37; § 26, p. 44; §§ 28-30, pp. 48-51;
§ 32, p. 53; § 67, p. 102; § 68, p. 103; § 100, p. 140; § 114, p. 155;
§§ 128-169, pp. 175-234; § 174, p. 240
Control, woman’s, § 67, p. 102; § 68, p. 103; § 133, p. 183
Coué, § 116, p. 159
Creating, § 84, p. 124
Demi-human, § 31, p. 52; § 125, p. 169
Despair, § 136, p. 187
Disagreements, § 25, p. 43
Disappointments, § 136, p. 187; § 201, p. 279
Discontent, § 15, p. 22
Dissembling, § 150, p. 209; § 152, p. 212
Dominating, § 5, p. 6; § 107, p. 148
Double Standard, § 44, p. 69; § 199, p. 276
Drouet, Mlle., § 6, p. 7; § 192, p. 268
Drama, Love, § 69, p. 104; § 74, p. 109; § 87, p. 126
Duty, § 50, p. 82
Education, § 152, p. 212
Egoistic-social, § 17, p. 24; § 25, p. 42; §§ 43-45, pp. 67-71;
§ 50, p. 82; § 51, p. 83; § 171, p. 237; § 191, p. 264;
§ 206, p. 287
Ellis, § 37, p. 60; § 84, p. 125; § 90, p. 130; § 99, p. 139;
§ 128, p. 175; § 181, p. 248; § 183, p. 250
Embarrassment, § 70, p. 105; § 153, p. 214
Emotional catharsis, § 24, p. 39. (See _Acme_.)
Emotions, § 1, p. 1; § 24, p. 39; §§ 33-42, pp. 56-65; § 94, p. 133;
§ 193, p. 268; § 197, p. 273
Environment, mental, § 145, p. 200
Erotic, § 10, p. 13; § 25, p. 42; § 33, p. 56; § 36, p. 59;
§ 45, p. 71; § 46, p. 73; § 48, p. 77; § 49, p. 78; § 51, p. 83;
§ 109, p. 151; § 147, p. 203; § 180, p. 247; § 187, p. 259;
§ 191, p. 264
Erotic, superiority of, § 63, p. 97
Erotism, § 10, p. 14
Erotologist, § 65, p. 99; § 107, p. 148; § 112, p. 154
Estrus, § 98, p. 138
Evolution, § 128, p. 175; § 190, p. 263
Fakirs, § 117, p. 160
Fate, § 15, p. 22; § 154, p. 216; § 208, p. 290
Father, § 204, p. 284
Fears, § 149, p. 206
Femininity, § 16, p. 23; § 27, p. 46; § 66, p. 100; § 72, p. 107;
§ 107, p. 148
Fetishism, § 119, p. 162; § 120, p. 163; § 126, p. 170
Fickleness, § 41, p. 64
Freud, § 67, p. 102; § 102, p. 142; § 179, p. 246; § 181, p. 248;
§ 183, p. 250
Frigidity, § 136, p. 187; § 199, p. 276
Frink, H. W., § 33, p. 56; § 52, p. 85; § 147, p. 203
Fusion, § 56, p. 91; § 76, p. 111; § 88, p. 128; § 114, p. 155
Gallichan, W. M., § 111, p. 153
Giving, § 23, p. 37; § 24, p. 39; § 154, p. 216
Glands, § 10, p. 13; § 63, p. 97; § 105, p. 145
Gonad, § 80, p. 120; § 88, p. 128
Habit, § 42, p. 66
Hallucination, § 157, p. 221; § 161, p. 225
Harrow, B., § 105, p. 145
Haste, § 67, p. 102; § 134, p. 184; § 147, p. 203; § 148, p. 205;
§ 150, p. 209
Hologamy, § 19, p. 29; § 88, p. 128; § 95, p. 135; § 187, p. 259
Home, § 15, p. 22; § 202, p. 280
Homosexuality, § 184, p. 251
Honeymoon, § 22, p. 35; § 23, p. 37; § 112, p. 154; § 136, p. 187
Hutchinson, § 15, p. 22
Hypersomatic, § 29, p. 49; § 32, p. 53; § 145, p. 198; § 166, p. 231;
§ 190, p. 263
Hyposomatic, § 29, p. 49; § 32, p. 53
Identification, § 80, p. 118; § 171, p. 237
Ignorance, § 80, p. 118; § 98, p. 138
Imagination, § 116, p. 159; § 164, p. 229; § 165, p. 231;
§ 166, p. 231; § 167, p. 232
Individuality, § 128, p. 175
Infantility, § 27, p. 46; § 60, p. 94; § 155, p. 217
Infidelity, § 160, p. 224
Insight, erotic, § 199, p. 276; § 200, p. 277
Instinct, §§ 42-63, pp. 66-97; § 103, p. 144; § 120, p. 163;
§ 199, p. 276
Islet, § 79, p. 113; § 80, p. 118
James, W., § 33, p. 56
Jealousy, § 179, p. 246; § 183, p. 250; § 185, p. 253; § 186, p. 255
Juan, Don, § 85, p. 125
Jus primæ noctis, § 85, p. 125
Karezza, §§ 100-106, pp. 140-146; § 116, p. 159
Krafft-Ebing, § 177, p. 243
Law of Reversed Effort, § 116, p. 159
Lombroso, § 150, p. 209
Loneliness, § 156, p. 219
Love, § 33, p. 56; § 46, p. 73; § 64, p. 98; § 75, p. 110;
§ 94, p. 133; § 128, p. 175
Love at first sight, § 19, p. 29; § 47, p. 75
Love Drama, § 69, p. 104; § 74, p. 109; § 87, p. 126
Love Episode, § 10, p. 13; § 26, p. 44; § 74, p. 109; § 75, p. 110;
§ 84, p. 124; § 97, p. 137; § 146, p. 201; § 212, p. 294
Love Impulse, § 5, p. 6; § 132, p. 182
Love Pattern, § 30, p. 51; § 53, p. 87
Man’s _vs._ Woman’s egoistic-social and erotic urge, § 35, p. 59
Marriage a lottery, § 66, p. 100; § 128, p. 175; § 184, p. 257
Marriage not to be postponed, § 173, p. 240
Marriage, run down, § 19, p. 29; § 174, p. 241
Marriage, Happy, § 115, p. 157
Masculinity, § 16, p. 23; § 27, p. 46; § 60, p. 94; § 66, p. 100
Masochism, § 108, p. 149; § 177, p. 243; § 180, p. 247
Mastery, § 200, p. 277
Meisel-Hess, G., § 4, p. 4; § 6, p. 7; § 14, p. 21
Mental _vs._ physical, § 29, p. 49
Metonymy, § 161, p. 225
Monogamy, § 213, p. 297
Mother imago, § 27, p. 46; § 64, p. 98; § 110, p. 151; § 114, p. 155;
§ 134, p. 184; § 193, p. 268
Mountain-climbing allegory, §§ 122-127, pp. 165-171
Mutuality, §§ 21-25, pp. 33-42
Mystery, § 31, p. 33; § 121, p. 165; § 154, p. 216
Negativism, § 23, p. 37; § 59, p. 93; § 60, p. 94; § 151, p. 211
Next best thing, § 130, p. 179
Observation, § 28, p. 48; § 97, p. 137
Ocean shore, § 81, p. 121
O’Higgins, H., § 119, p. 162
Oneida Community, § 100, p. 140; § 114, p. 155
Over-sexed woman, § 149, p. 206; § 186, p. 258
Parents, § 52, p. 85; § 53, p. 87; § 54, p. 89
Passion, § 33, p. 56; § 49, p. 78; § 196, p. 272; § 203, p. 283;
§ 207, p. 289
Passive, § 27, p. 46; § 33, p. 56
Patterns, § 11, p. 16; §§ 31-32, pp. 52-55; § 53, p. 87;
§ 117, p. 160; § 118, p. 161; § 168, p. 233; § 170, p. 236;
§ 199, p. 276
Pepys, § 182, p. 249
Perverse, § 7, p. 11
Phantasy, § 86, p. 126; § 139, p. 193; § 146, p. 201; § 153, p. 214;
§ 157, p. 221; § 162, p. 226
Phobia, § 38, p. 61
Physical _vs._ mental, § 29, p. 49; § 170, p. 236
Plato, § 46, p. 73
Playmate, § 12, p. 18; § 27, p. 46
Plurality of women, § 191, p. 264
Polyandry, unconscious, § 176, p. 242
Polygamy, § 20, p. 31
Polymorphous-perverse, § 7, p. 11
Preparation of wife, §§ 97-99, pp. 137-139
Problems, sex, § 11, p. 16
Prodigality of Nature, § 206, p. 287
Prohibition, § 197, p. 273
Prostitute, § 4, p. 4; § 67, p. 102; § 150, p. 209
Prostitution, § 4, p. 4; § 54, p. 89; §§ 197-198, pp. 273-274
Psychic erotism, § 109, p. 151
Psychoanalysis, § 6, p. 7; § 31, p. 52; § 52, p. 85; § 184, p. 251
Rapport, § 99, p. 139; § 166, p. 231; § 207, p. 289
Rationalization, § 25, p. 42; § 82, p. 123
Reassociation, § 38, p. 61; § 39, p. 62; § 41, p. 64
Relaxation, § 96, p. 136; § 99, p. 139; § 192, p. 267
Repression, § 6, p. 7; § 35, p. 59; § 37, p. 60; § 128, p. 175;
§ 144, p. 197; § 162, p. 226; § 197, p. 273
Resentment, § 136, p. 187
Resistance, § 157, p. 221; § 159, p. 222
Responsibility, § 45, p. 71; § 194, p. 269
Restlessness, § 13, p. 19
Right of woman, § 89, p. 128; § 90, p. 130; § 92, p. 132; § 93, p. 133
Robie, Dr. W. F., § 65, p. 100
Robinson, J. H., § 1, p. 2
Romantic, § 14, p. 21; § 15, p. 22
Sacrifice, § 177, p. 243; § 180, p. 247
Satisfaction, § 2, p. 2; § 16, p. 23; § 26, p. 44; § 27, p. 46;
§ 72, p. 107
Science, § 110, p. 151
Sea and rocks, § 81, p. 121
“Secret Places of the Heart,” § 78, p. 113
Sex Inhibition, § 137, p. 190; § 178, p. 245
Sex life, normal, § 9, p. 12; § 11, p. 16; § 77, p. 112
Sex talk, § 11, p. 16
Shaw, G. B., § 156, p. 219
Shrew, § 20, p. 31
Simultaneity, § 98, p. 138; §§ 111-113, pp. 153-155
Single standard, § 199, p. 276
Solitary vice of husbands, § 155, p. 218
Soma, § 29, p. 49
Splitting of libido, § 189, p. 262
Spouse, § 207, p. 289
Steinach, § 105, p. 145
Stekel, W., § 54, p. 89; § 184, p. 251
Stoics, § 33, p. 56
Strength, § 59, p. 93; § 60, p. 94; § 80, p. 118
Study (see _Observation_)
Sublimation, § 104, p. 145
Succession plan, § 112, p. 154; § 113, p. 155; § 115, p. 157;
§ 118, p. 161
Suggestion, § 166, p. 231
Supremity of male control, § 142, p. 195
Surprise, § 33, p. 56; § 121, p. 165
Surprise of married, p. 15
Synthesis, § 7, p. 11; § 91, p. 131
Talion, § 152, p. 212
Taming of the Shrew, § 20, p. 31
Tension, erotic, § 91, p. 131
Testing, § 72, p. 107; § 114, p. 155; § 121, p. 165; § 136, p. 187;
§ 137, p. 190; § 150, p. 209; § 151, p. 211; § 152, p. 212;
§ 160, p. 224
Thesis, § 144, p. 197
Trial marriage, § 41, p. 64; § 207, p. 289
Tumescence, § 81, p. 121; § 91, p. 131
Unconscious affection, § 187, p. 259
Unconscious factor, § 65, p. 99; § 66, p. 100; § 192, p. 267
Unconscious love, § 193, p. 268; § 206, p. 287; § 207, p. 289;
§ 208, p. 290
Unhappy marriage, §§ 170-186, pp. 236-258
Unity, § 190, p. 263
Variety, § 87, p. 126; § 198, p. 274
Virginity, § 84, p. 124; § 210, p. 292; § 211, p. 293
Virility, § 17, p. 24; § 25, p. 42; § 72, p. 107; § 100, p. 140;
§ 114, p. 155; § 159, p. 224; § 201, p. 279
Wells, H. G., § 78, p. 113
Wifan (root WIB), § 66, p. 100; § 168, p. 233
Wife, § 170, p. 236
Wife’s helplessness, § 92, p. 132; § 157, p. 221; § 160, p. 224;
§ 161, p. 225
Woman’s infinite variety, § 87, p. 126
Woman’s lack of positive control, § 133, p. 183
Work, § 50, p. 82