ADDRESSING ENVELOPES. See ADDRESSING
ENVELOPES--MEN.
AFTERNOON DRESS. See AFTERNOON DRESS--MEN.
AFTERNOON TEAS. See AFTERNOON TEAS--MEN.
BACHELORS' DINNERS. See BACHELORS' DINNERS--MEN.
BACHELORS' TEAS. See BACHELORS' TEAS--MEN.
BALLS. See BALLS--MEN.
BICYCLING. See BICYCLING--MEN.
BOWING. See BOWING--MEN.
BREAKFASTS. See BREAKFASTS--MEN.
CALLS. See CALLS--MEN.
CARDS. See CARDS, VISITING--MEN.
CHAPERONES. See CHAPERONES--MEN.
CHRISTENINGS. See CHRISTENINGS--MEN.
CONCLUSION OF LETTERS. See CONCLUSION OF A LETTER--MEN.
COTILLIONS BY SUBSCRIPTIONS. See COTILLIONS BY SUBSCRIPTIONS--MEN.
DANCES. See DANCES--MEN.
DANCING. See DANCING--MEN.
DEBUTANTE. See DEBUTANTE--MEN.
DINNERS. See DINNERS--MEN.
DRIVING. See DRIVING--MEN.
DRESS. See DRESS--MEN.
ENGAGEMENT. See ENGAGEMENT--MEN.
EVENING DRESS. See EVENING DRESS--MEN.
FLOWERS. See FLOWERS--MEN.
FUNERALS. See FUNERALS--MEN.
GARDEN PARTIES. See GARDEN PARTIES--MEN.
GLOVES. See GLOVES--MEN.
HIGH TEA. See HIGH TEA--MEN.
HOUSE PARTIES. See HOUSE PARTIES--MEN.
INTRODUCTIONS. See INTRODUCTIONS--MEN.
INVITATIONS. See INVITATIONS--MEN.
JEWELRY. See JEWELRY--MEN.
LUNCHEONS. See LUNCHEONS--MEN.
MORNING DRESS. See MORNING DRESS--MEN.
MOURNING. See MOURNING--MEN.
NEWCOMER, RESIDENTS' DUTY TO. See NEWCOMER,
RESIDENTS' DUTY TO MEN.
RIDING. See RIDING--MEN.
SALUTATIONS. See SALUTATIONS--MEN.
SHAKING HANDS. See SHAKING HANDS--MEN.
STATIONERY. See STATIONERY--MEN.
STREET-CARS. See STREET-CARS--MEN.
STREET ETIQUETTE. See STREET ETIQUETTE--MEN.
THEATRE PARTIES. See THEATRE PARTIES--MEN.
TITLES. See TITLES--MEN.
TRAVELING. See TRAVELING--MEN.
WEDDINGS. See WEDDINGS--MEN.
MESSENGER, SENDING CARDS BY. See CARDS, VISITING--
SENDING BY MAIL OR MESSENGER.
MINISTER (PROTESTANT)-HOW ADDRESSED, An official
letter begins: Reverend Dear Sir, and ends:
I remain sincerely yours.
A social letter begins: Dear Mr. Wilson,
and ends: I beg to remain sincerely yours.
The address on the envelope is: The
Reverend John J. Wilson. but if the clergyman
holds the degree of D.D. (Doctor of
Divinity), the address may be: The Reverend
John J. Wilson, D.D., or Reverend Dr. John
J. Wilson.
MINISTER. See CLERGYMAN.
MISS. This is the prefix both in conversation,
correspondence, and on the visiting-card of the
eldest daughter, the next daughter being
known as Miss Annie Smith; but on the
death or marriage of the eldest daughter, she
becomes Miss Smith.
MONOGRAMS. If men and women wish, these may
be stamped in the latest colors on their
stationery. When the address is stamped, it
is not customary to stamp the monogram.
The latest fashion in the style of monograms
require that they should be the size of
a ten-cent piece.
All individual eccentricities of facsimiles
of handwriting, etc., should be avoided.
It is not customary to have the monogram
on the flap of the envelope.
If sealing-wax is used, it should be of some
dull color.
MORNING DRESS.
MEN. Morning costume consists of a dark frock
coat, with vest and light trousers. This can
be worn at any entertainment occurring in
the daytime--as, weddings, luncheons, receptions
of all kinds, matinees, or ceremonious visits.
Anything worn is admissible in morning
dress, a business suit, cutaway, sack suit,
hats or caps, and undressed kid gloves of a
dark color.
At out-of-town resorts, golf, wheeling, and
yachting costumes suitable for outdoor sport
may be worn in the morning.
It is considered the correct thing for a man
to tie his own tie instead of buying them
ready made.
See also AFTERNOON DRESS--MEN. EVENING
DRESS--MEN.
MOTHER. A mother should receive an invitation for
any function to which her daughters are
invited, and should go and return with them.
DEBUTS. The mother and the elder unmarried
daughter, prior to the debut, calls formally
upon those who are to be invited. She
stands at her daughter's side to receive the
congratulations of the guests, and at a dance
she selects the first partner to dance with the
debutante, and at the dinner or supper is
escorted by the most distinguished man.
See also CHAPERONE.
MOTHER OF BRIDE. At the wedding reception she is
escorted by the father of the groom, and
receives with the married couple.
At the wedding breakfast she is escorted
by the father of the groom.
MOTHER OF GROOM. At the wedding reception she
receives with the married couple.
At the wedding breakfast she is taken in
by the father of the bride, following after
the ushers and the maids of honor.
MOURNING. Those in mourning for parent, child,
brother, or husband should not be seen at
any public function or private entertainment
before six months have passed.
CARDS. These are the same size as visiting-cards.
A black border is used, the width to be
regulated by the relationship to the deceased
relative.
They should be sent to indicate temporary
retirement from and re-entrance into society.
Within a month after death in a family
friends should leave cards. The persons
receiving the same should acknowledge the
remembrance and sympathy when they are
ready to resume their social functions. This
may be done by letter or card.
MEN. Mourning cards are the same size as
visiting-cards, and a black border is used, the
width to be regulated by the relationship of
deceased relative.
WOMEN. Mourning cards should be sent, to
indicate temporary retirement from society.
Later cards should be sent, to indicate return
to society.
CHILDREN. Children under twelve need not be
dressed in mourning, though they often are.
Only the lightest material should be used.
Girls of more advanced age do not wear veils,
but crape may be worn in hat or dress,
according to taste.
For parent, brother, or sister, mourning is
worn for about one year.
MEN. Men wear mourning one year for loss of
wife.
A crape band should be worn around the
hat, its width being determined by the
nearness of the relative mourned for. It is
usually removed after eight months.
A widower wears mourning for one year,
or, if he wishes, eighteen months, and for a
brother, sister, parent, or a child, from six
months to a year, as he desires. For the
loss of other relatives, duration of mourning
is generally regulated by the members of the
family.
The wearing of a black band on the coat
sleeve in token of half-mourning is an
English custom, and is somewhat practised in
this country.
STATIONERY-MEN. A widower uses a black
border about one-third of an inch on his
stationery, and this at intervals is diminished.
All stamping should be done in black.
WOMEN. A widow's stationery should be heavily
bordered, and is continued as long as she
is in deep mourning. This is gradually
decreased, in accordance with her change of
mourning.
All embossing or stamping should be done
in black.
WEDDINGS. Mourning should never be worn at
a wedding, but it should be laid aside
temporarily, the wearer appearing in purple.
WIDOWS. A widow should wear crape with a
bonnet having a small border of white. The
veil should be long, and worn over the face
for three months, after which a shorter veil
may be worn for a year, and then the face
may be exposed. After six months white
and lilac may be used, and colors resumed
after two years.
WOMEN. The mourning dress of a woman for
parent, sister, brother, or child is the same
as that worn by a widow, save the white
bonnet ruche--the unmistakable mark of a
widow.
For parents and children, deepest mourning
is worn at least one year, and then the
change is gradually made by the addition of
lighter material or half-mourning.
For other members of the family--as, aunts,
uncles, grandparents, cousins, etc.--black
clothes should be worn, but not heavy
mourning.
Complimentary mourning is worn for three
months; this does not necessitate crape and
veil, but any black material can be used.
WOMEN, FOR CHILDREN. For a child, mourning
is usually worn for six months, thereafter
substituting black and white.
FOR BROTHER AND SISTER, ETC. Mourning for
a brother or sister, step-parents, or grandparents
is the same as for parents, but the
time is shorter, generally about six months.
For an aunt, uncle, or cousin the time is
three months.
FOR FIANCE. In the event of the death of a
woman's betrothed shortly before the date of
the wedding, she may wear black for a short
period or full mourning for a year.
FOR HUSBANDS. Mourning cards are sent out, to
indicate that they are not making or receiving
calls.
Mourning is generally worn for two years,
and sometimes much longer. Woolen
material of the deepest black and crape
should be worn during the first year.
When out-of-doors a crape veil should be
worn for a year, or at least three months,
covering the face, or, if preferred, the veil
may be thrown over the shoulder, and a
small one of tulle, or other suitable material,
edged with crape, worn over the face.
A crape bonnet should be worn, and a very
small white ruche may be added if desired.
After the first year a gradual change to
lighter mourning may be made by discarding
the widow's cap and shortening the veil.
Dull silks are used in place of crape,
according to taste. In warm weather lighter
materials can be worn--as, pique, nun's
veiling, or white lawn.
Black furs and sealskin may be worn.
Precious stones, such as diamonds and pearls,
may be used if mounted in black enamel.
Gold jewelry should not be used. A woman
should avoid all pretensions to excessive
styles.
FOR HUSBAND'S RELATIVES. A married woman
wears mourning for her husband's immediate
relatives.
FOR PARENTS AND GRANDCHILDREN. Mourning
for these persons is generally worn for one
year. During the first six months, black
material trimmed with crape is used, and also
a deep veil, which is thrown over the back of
the head and not worn over the face, as for a
husband. After this period the mourning
may be lightened, according to taste.
See also DEATH IN THE FAMILY. FUNERALS.
MR. AND MRS. CARDS ( VISITING). These cards are not
generally used for ceremonious calls after the
first series of return calls made by the
bride.
If the husband is unable, the first year
after marriage, to make formal calls, his wife
uses the Mr. and Mrs. cards, and such is
accepted as a call from him. But after
one year she should leave their separate
cards.
These are used on formal occasions-as,
returning a first call, condolence, congratulations,
or P. P. C.--when both the husband
and wife are represented.
When they are used the first year after
marriage, they should have the address in
right-hand corner and reception days in
lower left-hand corner.
The card should read:
Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Wren Wilson