ADDRESSING. See ADDRESSING CARDS (VISITING).
AFTERNOON TEAS. See CARDS (VISITING), LEAVING
IN PERSON--AFTERNOON TEAS. CARDS (VISITING),
MAIL OR MESSENGER-AFTERNOON TEAS.
AT HOME. See AT HOME-CARDS.
BIRTH (ANNOUNCEMENT). See CARDS (VISITING),
LEAVING IN PERSON--BIRTH.
CONDOLENCE. See CONDOLENCE--CARDS.
DAUGHTER. See DAUGHTERS--CARDS (VISITING).
GARDEN PARTIES. See GARDEN PARTIES--CARDS.
HUSBAND AND WIFE. When the wife is calling,
she can leave cards of the husband and
sons if it is impossible for them to do so
themselves.
After an entertainment, cards of the family
can be left for the host and hostess by either
the wife or any of the daughters.
See Also MR. AND MRS. CARD.
LEAVING IN PERSON. When cards with a message
of congratulation are left in person,
nothing should be written on it.
LEAVING IN PERSON--AFTERNOON TEAS.
Women leave cards of their male relatives
as well as their own, although their names
may be announced upon entering the drawing-room.
Guests leave their cards in a receptacle
provided, or give them to the servant
at the door.
MEN. A bachelor should not use AT HOME
cards as a woman does, nor to invite his
friends by writing a date and MUSIC AT FOUR
on his calling card in place of an invitation.
MEN--LEAVING IN PERSON. When returning
to town after a long absence, a man should
leave cards having his address.
When calling upon a young woman whose
hostess is not known by the man, he should
send his card to her.
At the beginning of a season, a man should
leave two cards for all those whose entertainments
he is in the habit of attending, or on
whom he pays social calls. These cards
may also be mailed. If left in person, there
should be one for each member of the family
called upon, or only two cards. In the
former there should be left one card for the
host, one for the hostess, one for the
"misses," and one for the rest of the family
and their guest.
Men of leisure should leave their own
cards, while business men can have them
left by the women of the family.
The corner of the card should not be
turned down.
Cards are now left in the hall by the servant
and the caller is announced. In business
calls the card is taken to the person for
whom the caller asked.
When calling, a man should leave a card
whether the hostess is at home or not.
P. P. C. card's may be left in person or
sent by mail upon departure from city, or
on leaving winter or summer resort.
When a man calls upon a young woman
whom a hostess is entertaining, he should
leave cards for both.
When a man calls upon another man, if he
is not at home, he should leave a card.
When a man calls on the hostess but not
the host he should leave a card for him.
If the hostess is out, he should leave two
cards--one for each.
BREAKFASTS, LUNCHEONS, DINNERS. A man
should leave a card the day after a breakfast,
luncheon, or dinner for the host and hostess,
whether the invitation was accepted or not.
They may also be sent by mail or messenger,
with an apology for so doing.
BALLS, SUBSCRIPTION. Shortly after receiving
an invitation to a subscription ball, a man
should leave a card for the patroness inviting
him.
DEBUTANTE. When calling upon a debutante a
man should leave cards for her mother,
whether the entertainment was attended or
not.
ENTERTAINMENT BY MEN. After a man's formal
entertainment for men, a man should leave a
card within one week, whether the event was
attended or not. It can be sent by mail or
messenger.
RECEPTION. When the host and hostess receive
together, a man should leave one card for
both, and if not present at the reception, he
should send two cards.
THEATRE. After a theatre party given by a
man, he should call within three days on the
woman he escorted or leave his card.
WEDDING RECEPTION. After a wedding reception
a man should leave a card for the host
and hostess, and another for the bridal
couple.
If a man has been invited to the church
but not to the wedding reception, he should
leave a card for the bride's parents and the
bridal couple, or should mail a card.
SENDING BY MAIL, OR MESSENGER. After an
entertainment a man should call in person on
host and hostess, whether the invitation was
accepted or not. If a card is mailed or sent,
it should be accompanied with an apology.
At the beginning of the season a man
should leave cards for all those whose entertainments
he is in the habit of attending, or
on whom he pays social calls. These cards
may also be mailed. If left in person, there
should be one for each member of the household
or only two cards.
In the former case, there should be left one
card for the host, one for the hostess, one for
the "misses," and one for the rest of the
family and the guest.
If a man is unable to make a formal call
upon a debutante and her mother at her
debut, he should send his card by mail or
messenger.
A man may mail his card to a woman
engaged to be married, if acquaintance
warrants.
Visitors to town should send cards to every
one whom they desire to see. The address
should be written on them.
AFTERNOON TEA. If a man is unable to be
present at an afternoon tea, he should send a
card the same afternoon.
BREAKFASTS, LUNCHEONS, DINNERS. A man
should leave a card the day after a breakfast,
luncheon, or dinner for the host and hostess,
whether the invitation was accepted or not.
They may be sent by mail or messenger with
an apology for so doing.
ENTERTAINMENT BY MEN. After a man's formal
entertainment for men, a man should leave a
card within one week, whether the event was
attended or not. It can be sent by mail or
messenger.
P. P. C. cards may be sent by mail or messenger
upon departure from city, or on leaving
winter or summer resort.
RECEPTION. When the host and hostess receive
together, a man should leave one card for
both, and, if not present at the reception, he
should send two cards.
WEDDING RECEPTION. If a man has been invited
to the church but not the wedding
reception, he should leave or mail a card to
the bride's parents, and also to the bridal
couple.
STYLE. The full name should be used, and if
too long, the initials only. The club address
is put in the lower left-hand corner, and if
not living at a club, the home address should
be in lower right-hand corner. In the absence
of a title, Mr. is always used on an
engraved but not a written card.
Cards should be engraved in plain letter,
according to prevailing fashion.
Facsimile cards engraved are no longer
used.
Written cards are in bad taste, but in case
of necessity they may be used. The name
should be written in full if not too long, and
should be the autograph of the sender.
Messages or writing should not appear on
men's cards. If address is changed, new
cards should be engraved. In an emergency
only the new address may be written.
MOURNING CARDS are the same size as visiting-
cards, and a black border is used--the width
to be regulated by the relationship of the
deceased relative.
MEN--STYLE, TITLES. Men having titles use
them before their names--as, Reverend, Rev.,
Mr., Dr., Army and Navy titles, and officers
on retired list. L.L.D. and all professional
titles are placed after the name. Political
and judicial titles are always omitted.
Physicians may use Dr. before or M.D.
after the name. On cards intended for social
use, office hours and other professional
matter are omitted.
MR. AND MRS. See MR. AND MRS. CARDS.
P. P. C. See P. P. C. CARDS.
SENDING BY MAIL OR MESSENGER. If after
accepting an invitation it is necessary to
decline, a card should be sent the evening of
the entertainment, with an explanatory note
the day following.
When an invitation has been received to
an "At Home" debut, and one has not been
able to attend, cards should be sent by mail
or messenger, to arrive at the time of the
ceremony.
A card should be mailed to a man engaged
to be married.
AFTERNOON TEAS. The invitations to a formal
afternoon tea are sent a week or ten days in
advance by mail or messenger. No reply is
necessary, but if unable to be present, a card
should be sent the day of the entertainment.
For an afternoon tea a visiting-card may
be used, with the hour for the "tea" written
or engraved over the date beneath the fixed
day of that week. They may be sent by mail
or messenger.
Persons unable to attend should send cards
the same afternoon.
BIRTH (ANNOUNCEMENT). If wishing to congratulate
after a birth, cards should be left in
person or sent by a messenger. Cut flowers
may be sent with the card.
CONDOLENCE. After a death in the family of
an acquaintance, a card with the word
Condolence written on it should be left in person or
by messenger. For very intimate acquaintances,
cut flowers may be left in person or
sent, together with a card or letter.
When unable to leave in person a card
with Condolence written on it, send it to intimate
friends only with a note of apology. If
out of town, it should be sent with a letter of
condolence.
TRAVELERS. A woman visiting a place for a
length of time should mail to her friends a
visiting-card which contains her temporary
address.
A man in similar situation should call upon
his friends, and if he does not find them at
home, should leave his card.
WEDDING INVITATIONS. Those present at the
ceremony should leave cards for those inviting
them, and if this is not possible, they can
be sent by mail or messenger.
Those invited but not present should send
cards.
WIDOW. See WIDOWS--CARDS.
WIFE. Only the wife of the oldest member of
the oldest branch may use her husband's
name without the initials.
WOMEN. Mrs. or Miss should always be used
before the names. The cards of single
women are smaller than those of married
women.
The husband's name should be used in
full, unless too long, when the initials are
used. Only the wife of the oldest member
of the oldest branch may use her husband's
name without initials.
Reception days should appear in the lower
left-hand corner, limiting dates--as, Until
Lent, or in January, may be either engraved
or written.
If a special function is allotted to any
reception days--as, the entertaining of special
guests--the hour of the reception day may be
written above the day and the date beneath it.
DAUGHTERS. See DAUGHTERS--CARDS.
LEAVING IN PERSON--BIRTH, ANNOUNCEMENT OF.
If wishing to send congratulations,
after receipt of a birth announcement card,
cards should be left in person or sent by a
messenger; cut flowers may be sent with the
card.
Before the wedding cards are issued, an
engaged woman should leave her card
personally upon her friends without entering the
house.
When calling at the beginning of the season
a woman should leave her own card,
those of the men of the family, and two of
her husband's.
After formal invitations, a woman should
leave her own card and those of the men of
the family who were invited, whether they
attended or not.
When calling formally a woman should
leave a card, whether the hostess is at home
or not.
When a woman calls upon a well-known
friend, it is not necessary to send up a card.
When making a call at a hotel or other
public place, the name of the person called
upon should be written in the upper left-
hand corner of the card--as: