HOW THEY ARE BROKEN.
In all friendships which ultimately cease to exist there comes the
point of departure as in the capital letter Y; the point where the two
before united friends separate and continue their lives in different
directions.
At first the division between them is a very narrow one, but it widens
and stretches out till the two wholly lose sight of each other. Of this
I have already spoken as the drifting apart of friends; the gradual
cooling of once warm friendship.
But it has another kind of conclusion as abrupt and final as the
termination of the capital letter I, of which no continuance is
possible.
It was difficult in the first instance to say just where the separation
between the friends began, but here there can be no mistake, and
very often not only the girls themselves but their relations and
acquaintances know that there has been a quarrel.
The letters and meetings do not become shorter and fewer, they cease;
or if circumstances do not allow of this—for their respective families
do not necessarily quarrel too—they become noticeably forced and
frigid, and, if possible, avoided. There is a sore feeling on both
sides which those who tranquilly drifted apart never experienced. The
friendship has broken off short, as it were, there has been no period
of preparation for this sudden issue, and both girls are wounded;
though whether it be in their affection, dignity, or self-love, the
cause of estrangement and character of each must determine.
It is impossible to sever all at once the many links which bind friend
and friend; and the consciousness that it is so, and that for many a
day after their quarrel they must stand connected, often adds to the
pain and bitterness they feel.
Now, what are the causes of these complete separations, or, to put it
more correctly, complete alienations?
Death is, of course, a final interruption to friendship, but does
not mean alienation. Our dear dead friend is ours still, in a sense.
We know that the dead in Christ have a conscious existence, and feel
convinced they do not forget, but continue to love us; and looking
forward to a reunion some day, we cannot feel that our friendship
is broken. A friendship interrupted by death seems to me to be only
purified and elevated, and when the thought arises, as it often will:
“What would she say to this? how would she advise on that?” the
certainty that her opinions must now be always ranged on the side of
what conscience tells us is right must tend to draw us upward and
onward.
Yes, the severance of death is not complete, but what are we to say of
the severance of pride or jealousy?
It is, unfortunately, true that many a girl, as well as her elders,
cannot bear to feel herself second, and because her friend is
prettier, cleverer, or it may be more fortunate, then she manages to
quarrel with her.
She does not acknowledge that such is the reason, of course; even if
she be conscious that it is so, she does not give it the true name,
but, “I am not always going to dance attendance on Louisa”—“Louisa
comes to me when she can get no one else, and I won’t put up with
it”—“I don’t see why Louisa should expect me always to go to her, and
never come to me,” and so on, until an irritated feeling against Louisa
is produced; and the two come to an open rupture.
If Louisa is indeed the superior of the two she has probably taken the
first place unconsciously, and a slight to her friend is the last thing
she dreams of. She feels the reproaches are unmerited, replies hotly,
or contemptuously, and the breach is made.
The friendship was, of course, a very imperfect one, or it could not
have been so easily broken. I don’t think the girl who felt herself
slighted and aggrieved could have given her friend much help or
sympathy for some time before the quarrel began.
“Ah, but,” someone exclaims, “perhaps she could not help and sympathise
with such a superior creature as Louisa.”
“Then,” I reply, “the friendship was too unequal to last long.” Not
that I mean for a moment to insist that two friends ought to be on a
level in every particular, but each should be superior in turn. It
won’t do for one always to be able to look down. If the other is meek
and submissive it creates a one-sided friendship; if she happens to
be high-spirited or mean-spirited, a quarrel. So that if your friend
either is, or considers herself, your superior in everything, or if you
will not allow that she is superior to you in anything, look out for
the breach that is sure to come.
And these breaches are not such as can be healed. The one most in fault
is sure to be the one who thinks herself injured, so that the necessary
first step is never taken. The friendship may indeed be patched up for
awhile, but it is never reliable again, for the simple reason that
girls who can quarrel once for such causes are quite certain to do so
again.
Friends are alienated, too, by a misunderstanding, and the beginnings
of these are often so far in the past that it is almost impossible
to find them. What very slight things occasion a misunderstanding
which in course of time may kill a friendship! A trifling neglect, an
explanation given too late, a carelessly worded speech or letter, and,
above all, perhaps, conversation incorrectly repeated.
Probably the remarks made are not of sufficient importance to deserve
that we ask an explanation of them, and in nine cases out of ten
we don’t stop to inquire whether it is not likely they have been
inaccurately reported—often by mistake—or, even if the words be right,
what a difference do look and tone make!
“You wretch,” is quite a term of endearment from some people, for
example; and “how mean of her to tell you,” does not sound very severe
from laughing lips.
“Clara said it was very mean of you to say anything to Maria about
the way she spoilt that dress of hers,” says the tale-bearer (and
tale-bearers do not generally understand a joke, but take all they
hear _au grand sérieux_). Harriet is vexed, for she thought Clara
considered the spoilt dress quite a laughing matter, and would not
betray her friend’s confidence for the world; still, it is not worth
while to make a fuss about it, but she can’t forget it, and the next
time she and Clara have a “difference” it comes out.
“You told Maria that I was mean and didn’t keep your secrets,” says
Harriet.
“I did not do any such thing,” cries Clara, who has forgotten all about
her careless speech, and to whom the spoilt dress had never seemed a
secret.
“Well, somebody heard you.”
“Nobody could have heard what I did not say.”
“You must have said it, or it would not have been heard,” etc., etc.
And even if the two make it up now there remains a feeling of distrust
of each other which is almost sure to ripen into alienation.
Misunderstandings may also be occasioned by a letter so heedlessly
worded that it makes a misrepresentation.
If such a statement as that the body of the late Prince Leopold was to
be “burned” at Frogmore can pass the proof-readers and appear, as it
did, in a public paper, it is not much wonder if girls, in their hasty,
thoughtless letters to one another, often say things quite as untrue
without the smallest intention of misleading. Girls do not always write
their meaning very clearly (nor other people either, for that matter),
and even the omission of a comma, to say nothing of a “not” or a
“sometimes,” may make all the difference in the world to a sentence.
Separations caused by misunderstandings are hard to bridge, because it
is so impossible to trace them to their beginnings. We have forgotten
ourselves what it was that first aroused the feeling of distrust, and
because we cannot give a reason for the feeling it is probably the
stronger. “I feel because I feel” is, after all, a position of great
strength. But we have lost each other as in a maze whose complications
are too numerous to permit of return or even exit, and here there is no
man in the middle to point out the way backwards or forwards.
Interference from without, tale-bearing, and meddling generally are
such obvious modes of dividing friends that I need hardly allude to
them except to say that outsiders rather overlook the fact that the
“third body” is nearly as much in the way between friends as between
lovers. Both resent having their quarrels made up from without; the
would-be healing hand is in most cases changed into that thumb about
which we so often hear, and which makes a small breach a large one.
I will only now speak of one more way in which friends part utterly,
and that is the parting of determined purpose for some clearly-defined
reason. This is not to be done lightly, and will only—can only—be done
by girls of decided character.
The reasons for such partings must lie deep, and in light, unthinking
characters there is no depth to contain them. Earnest differences will
often spring up on religious questions, and if their convictions or
fanaticism lead them to believe such differences vital, girls will
sometimes mutually agree, either tacitly or in words, to bring their
friendship to a close and be in future mere acquaintances.
When two friends disagree in matters of religion, the subject is
generally altogether dropped between them; and can there be a true
friendship, do you think, when what is of vital interest and importance
to both is entirely left out of conversation?
Minor religious differences are of no consequence; but let there be
agreement in what an old woman aptly called “the fundamentals,” and
this Christians of different sects can certainly manage to do.
Again, if one of the two friends pursues a line of conduct of which
the other strongly disapproves, either on religious or moral grounds
(not upon some strained question of ceremonial or class etiquette,
remember), a total estrangement is likely to take place. I have a
case of this sort in my mind at the present moment, the cause of
disagreement being certain books, the reading of which one considered
would injure her moral purity. A hot dispute ensued, and the girls
parted. It was best they should part; they could never have been
lasting friends.
Let me add but one word to this chapter of broken friendships.
Girls must remember that even a dead friendship is a sacred thing, and
that its death does not loose them from the responsibility laid on them
by that friendship while still alive. The secrets your friend confided
in you while your friend are secrets still. You have no right to make
them common property because she is no longer your friend. All she
told you must be as if it were under the seal of confession. There
is nothing I think more contemptible than a girl who makes use of the
knowledge she acquired of another while they were friends to show her
up to ridicule or scorn. It somehow reminds me of a decoy-duck. It is
some satisfaction, however, to feel that such a creature gets more than
all the contempt and disgust she intended for her sometime friend.
I am afraid girls lose sight of these responsibilities of friendship,
and think when the last handclasp is loosened they are freed from the
burden of the other’s confidence. But this is emphatically not the
case. A dead friendship is a sacred thing.
(_To be concluded._)
ANSWERS TO CORRESPONDENTS.
EDUCATIONAL.
NURSE and HOUSEMAID should apply to the secretary, St. Mary’s Hospital,
Paddington, W., stating full particulars.
L. MARTIN will obtain information on schools, etc., by getting “The
Englishwoman’s Year Book” from Messrs. Hatchards and Co., Piccadilly,
W. Her question is too vague.
ONE OF THE GIRLS (Belfast).—The openings in India at present are
generally in connection with medical missions, and good governess
situations are not easy to get. You are far too young to think of it
yet.
A CORNISH LASSIE.—We recommend you to study Dr. Angus’s “Handbook of
the English Tongue” (Mr. Tarn, 56, Paternoster-row, E.C.). You must not
end any sentence with a preposition such as _with_, _for_, _by_, _to_,
_in_, or _of_. Transpose the phrase so as to avoid it or alter it.
“What did he do it for?” is incorrect. You should say, “Why did he do
it?” or “For what reason did he do it?”
SCHOOLGIRL (Toronto).—Backboards and stocks were both used. The former
are to be seen now in many schoolrooms in England, and when one sees
the rounded shoulders and poor carriage of so many of the present
generation of girls, one wishes that the backboard _régime_ could be
restored.
E. M. H.—The name Abram meant “a high father.” This was afterwards
changed to Abraham, which means the “father of a great multitude.” See
the promises of God to him in the Book of Genesis.
H. Y. M.—We must request you to read all that we have recently said
to other correspondents desiring to become governesses, and reckoning
on salaries in accordance with the amount of their certificated
acquirements, but overlooking the circumstances of youth and
inexperience. In your own case, your hand is not formed, and you are
incapable of teaching that essential branch of education—writing;
nor do you express yourself properly—_i.e._, you should not say
“for teaching same as above.” This is a very commercial style of
abbreviating a sentence. Also, you should not say “over seventeen,” but
“upwards of.” We point out such little inelegancies only in kindness,
because your style of letter-writing might obtain or lose you a good
situation, and we wish you well. A visiting governess is generally
better paid than a resident one.
A CONSTANT READER.—We recommend you to procure a small “Directory
of Girls’ Clubs,” published by Griffith and Farran, corner of St.
Paul’s-churchyard, E.C.
MISS A. S.—We are glad to bring the Parkinson Society of Lovers of
Hardy Flowers into the notice of our readers, and regret that, although
not specially designed for our girls, it was not until too late for
publication brought before the compiler of the shilling manual of
girls’ clubs above-named. It was founded by the late Juliana H. Ewing,
and had its origin in her story of “Mary’s Meadow,” in reference to
the cultivation, study, and preservation of hardy wild flowers. The
name was given in commemoration of the old herbalist, John Parkinson.
Members of this society receive a parcel of MSS. and books on
gardening every month, from April 1st to November 30th. For rules and
other particulars, apply to the hon. secretary, Miss A. Sargant, 7,
Belsize-grove, London, N.W.
ART.
MIMICA.—The remains of Turner, the painter, are buried in the crypt of
St. Paul’s Cathedral, close to those of Sir Joshua Reynolds.
COTAGHALEURIN.—We do not usually give addresses. You may procure cheap
unmounted photos in all London bazaars and at many art shops, and the
prices range from four pence to half-a-crown. Your handwriting is good.
We are obliged for your kind offer of a fern, which we are unable to
accept.
CELANDINE.—1. We consider milk and water a good preparation for setting
pencil drawings. 2. Probably you have forgotten to dip your mould in
cold water, and so wet it before pouring in your lemon sponge.
K. A.—For setting a smoked picture, see answer on page 399, vol. iii.,
to “Charing Cross.”
TWO SCHOOLBERRIES.—To preserve holly berries, dip them in a solution
of sealing-wax and spirits of wine, such as you employ for colouring
soiled baskets.
AN INTERESTED READER.—An annual exhibition of china paintings is held
by Messrs. Howell and James, and they will take any articles for it if
fairly well executed. The price is attached to each piece, for which if
sold a small commission is charged.
ELISE.—To remove the gloss on the surface of a photo, apply the tongue
to the paper, for no preparation is as safe as this natural one.
VIOLENT.—We cannot make promises as to competitions. Read our
replies on this subject to other inquirers. They can only be of rare
occurrence, and are so planned as to suit the majority of our girls.
DAPHNE.—It is difficult to paint without a few lessons at the
commencement. Bad habits are formed, which have to be abandoned.
Green’s three shilling volumes on painting from nature, sold by Messrs.
Rowney, might assist you. Study them carefully, and copy the examples
given after having enlarged them.
SAG.—A “cold shadow” in painting is one that runs from a blue-grey
to black, and a “warm shadow” is a grey tint inclining to crimson or
purple. The shadows are effected by the amount of sunlight at the
time the picture is taken. Megilp is mixed with oil colours and other
mediums, but not to any great extent. Make your capital letters more
distinct. We cannot tell whether you call yourself Sag, Say, Tag, Lag,
or Lay.
HOWELL and EMMELINE (Barbadoes).—For an article on waxwork, see vol.
i., page 355. It is sufficient for a beginner. We are surprised that
you should select such a field of art in so warm a climate. Surely it
would be very unsuitable? To model in clay or carve in wood or ivory
would, we should fancy, be much more practicable.
WORK.
JUDY.—The cashmere skirt with the beaded bodice would be quite suitable
for a quiet evening at home.
GERTRUDE.—The only way is to procure orders for the things you make by
going round with a collection of them to the shops, and showing what
you can do; but it would be a very precarious way of living.
GRANNIE must send the cloth to a good French cleaner. We fear the
crimson spot is a dye, not a stain.
DAISY RANDOLPH.—Alas! so many of our correspondents write to us about
“a little work they could do at home to add to their incomes.” Such
work is the most difficult to get; but dressmakers are always in
request. Why cannot “Daisy” try dressmaking or millinery, and make a
small home business?
E. GEMMELL writes in behalf of the Decorative Needlework Society,
45, Baker-street, W., to say that scientific or other dressmaking is
not taught at their institution. The art of decorative needlework,
including church embroidery, is taught, and all desiring such
instruction should address the hon. secretary, Miss Mary Haworth. The
promoters of this society were formerly engaged in that of the Royal
School of Art Needlework.
SEVENTEEN, MINUS THE SWEETNESS.—Nun’s-cloth, cashmere, or fine alpaca,
are all suitable for inexpensive evening gowns for young girls. We
should think that a crimson or ruby-coloured material would suit
you, though as a rule youth looks best in white. Black lace over a
red foundation is also used by young girls at present, and is not
expensive.
THERMOMETER.—Steam the plush on the wrong side and shake it well. Curl
the feather with a blunt penknife, drawing each filament separately and
gently between your thumb and the blade.
MISS RENDELL.—Inquiries being perpetually made by our correspondents
as to any method of disposing of their needlework, we are glad to have
found one at last in a society for the aid of girls and young women. To
those who live by their work, the yearly subscription is 2s. 6d., and
Miss Rendell’s depôt is at 12, Shawfield-street, King’s-road, Chelsea,
S.W. The names of all lady workers are kept quite private. The depôt is
open from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m., Saturdays excepted. A commission of 2d. in
the shilling is charged on all work sold, the rent of the house, etc.,
having to be met.
MISS E. RADCLIFFE.—The Pinafore Society is one conducted by this
lady, to which each member subscribes one shilling annually, and must
contribute, as we understand, two pinafores a year likewise. For
further particulars write to the hon. secretary, Balmore, Caversham,
Oxon.
AMY W.—To make a handsome sermon-case, embroider an ecclesiastical
design upon strong linen with floss silk and gold threads. Transfer
this to good dark velvet, and hide the linen edges by couching a gold
cord round them, lining the velvet with rep silk of same shade of
colour.
F. L. C. W. (Leicester).—A verse of four lines suitable to embroider on
a needlebook is not easy to find, especially as you give no particulars
as to the receiver of your gift.
MISCELLANEOUS.
EDITH C. JARVIS.—Your little poem gives promise of better to come.
There is considerable freedom, but no original ideas. Had the writer
been younger, we might have tried to find space for it.
DAISY should read our series of articles on good breeding and etiquette
under every circumstance of life. Possibly these may be published in
separate form, and if so, it may be shortly; but, in any case, we
advise you to read them in their present form.
DORIS.—See our articles on the meaning of “Girls’ Christian Names,” in
vol. iv., pages 39, 134, 235, and 381.
ROTHSAY BAY.—Of course, you should say grace before breakfast and
dinner. A very usual form is, “For these, and all Thy mercies, we give
Thee thanks, O Lord!” or, “O Lord! relieve the wants of others, and
make us truly thankful.” It is certainly to be regretted that people
who recognise the duty of returning thanks to God for the “daily bread”
for which they pray, should mutter them hurriedly over, as if ashamed
of them!
BESSIE.—1. Cousins of any degree of nearness may be legally married. 2.
May 27th, 1868, was a Wednesday.
HORSESHOE inquires “why some people have different coloured eyes.” We
will tell her if she can inform us why some people’s noses turn up and
some turn down. Such peculiarities may be hereditary, but what the
ancient origin of the distinctive features of various races may be we
do not propose to investigate for our correspondents.
HELIOTROPE and MARY’S LAMB.—The word “marmalade” is of Greek origin,
composed of two words, “apple” and “honey.” From the same source the
French derive their kindred word _marmelade_, the Spaniards their
_mermelada_, and the Portuguese their _marmelo_. The term is not merely
applied to an orange confection, but likewise to one of apples and of
quinces.
AN OLD FRIEND AT AACHEN.—We read your letter with much interest. We are
not certain whether you intend to say you are earning £30 in English
money and have also £30 income. If so, and you are now in a situation,
you should dress on £20 and save the rest.
VANITY.—We have pleasure in directing attention to the opening of a
home for destitute children of the upper classes at Tunbridge Wells. So
much is done for the lower orders, and so very little for poor gentry,
that we sincerely wish this little institution will meet with abundant
support. Address Mrs. Ladds, hon. secretary, 11, South-grove, Tunbridge
Wells. The objects are twofold—to provide a home for the children till
able to earn a livelihood, and to offer temporary change of air to
those whose parents (military, naval, or professional) can only make a
small payment for it.
JO.—1. We recommend you to go or write to the New Zealand Emigration
Office in Victoria-street, Westminster, S.W., where you will obtain
all the information you need. 2. The 14th of September, 1864, was a
Wednesday.
FAUVETTE.—To fasten small shells on boxes, strong glue is used, or
cement such as you buy at a chemist’s for mending china. We are much
pleased that you value our paper. Of course, you are one of “our girls.”
VENTURE.—The poem is prose badly rhymed. How can you make a
“thankoffering of a friend”? Your thoughts are confused, and your
metaphors nonsense.
ALICE CANN.—Your duty is to serve the Lord faithfully, relying on His
grace and aid in whatever situation His Providence has placed you; but
if one of special temptation, you may seek a less trying one when able.
On no account, however, neglect your obedience to His command, and give
up your attendance on His divine ordinances, especially that of Holy
Communion. It would be the first step in a downward direction. We have
a battle to fight, the “fight of faith,” and must “overcome evil with
good.” You write a very pretty hand. Accept our best wishes.
MABELLE.—There is no sequel to either book, nor has the “Mystery of
Edwin Drood” been finished by anyone bearing authority from the Dickens
family.
JUST EIGHTEEN.—The mutual opening of each other’s letters should
be made from the beginning a matter of distinct agreement between
a husband and wife. However great the mutual confidence may be,
expediency may often render the indiscriminate opening of letters
undesirable as a regular rule. In fact, it would be better, in our
opinion, that each should open their own and respect those of the
other, thereby showing the greater confidence in that respect.
Voluntarily to read aloud the ordinary letters to each other is
certainly desirable.
TROUBLESOME FLO.—We do not think the lines original enough to get into
print, but they show a very sweet and tender-hearted disposition, and
no doubt it gave you pleasure to write them, and relieved your heart at
the time; so be satisfied with that, and cherish the good and loving
thoughts, and seek ever what is best.
TULLIALLAN.—Christmas Day, 1860, was a Tuesday.
BOBTAIL.—January 4th, 1874, was a Sunday.
JEANETTE.—You would be both rash and imprudent in marrying so
unreliable a man. His saying that he “could do so much with you” is
mere talk, when every act has contradicted the assertion. Besides, he
has no right to reckon upon leaning on you. You have a right to expect
to lean upon him. He is a broken reed to depend upon, and would drag
you down to poverty, and then, when failures and want have tried his
weak nature, who knows the result? Drink might follow. It is unmanly
and dishonourable in a man who has no home nor money to ask any woman
to marry him, and you are fully justified in withdrawing from the
engagement without asking his permission, having already excused his
failures so often. Ask your parents to dismiss him if troublesome.
MARGARET.—What is called house-leek, or, vulgarly, “hen and chickens,”
is a very good plant for bordering a garden bed.
A YOUNG MOTHER (New Zealand).—Your very gratifying letter has been
long unanswered, but we greatly appreciate the opinion you express
respecting this paper, and thank you for it sincerely, the more so as
your sole object in writing is to encourage us in our work by a few
gracious words. Accept our best wishes for you and yours.
ROGATOR.—We read in _Notes and Queries_ that whenever the German
knights headed an infamous Jew hunt in the Middle Ages they shouted
“Hip-hip!” equivalent to saying “Jerusalem is destroyed!” “Hip” is
said to be a _notarica_ of the letters _Hierosolima est perdita_. The
authority given is Henri van Laun. The word “hurrah!” is taken from the
word _Huraj_, “to Paradise,” and the two words thus connected would
seem to mean “Jerusalem is lost to the Infidel” (or unbelieving Jew or
Saracen), “and we are on the way to Paradise.”
MUMBLES.—“There is a tide in the affairs of men,” is taken from
Shakespeare’s _Julius Cæsar_, act iv., scene 3.
[Illustration:
“FREEZE, FREEZE, THOU BITTER SKY,
THOU DOST NOT BITE SO NIGH
AS BENEFITS FORGOT.”]
A CONSTANT READER tells us that she became so deaf from a severe
cold, that she could not hear the clock strike when close to it. For
this deafness she tried the following prescription, for which, she
says, a lady paid a physician three guineas. She moistened a little
wool with the fat of uncooked bacon, and put it in her ears, changing
it every second day. The weather being cold, she tied a lace lappet
over her ears, and when out of doors covered them with her bonnet
strings. In less than a fortnight her hearing was restored, and she
has had no return of deafness. Another lady recovered her hearing by
means of taking a strong tonic, taking also nourishing food, and so
strengthening the entire system, and with equally satisfactory results.
S. MEARER.—We do not recommend the profession you name. It is one of
such great temptation, and such a hindrance to spiritual life and
progress. It is also exceedingly trying to the health.
HELEN ADA.—All games of ball are of very remote origin. The Greeks
played them assiduously, and gave a statue to Aristonicus for his
wonderful play. Tennis is thought, from the terms used in the game,
to have originated in France prior to the fifteenth century. There
is a book called “Annals of Tennis,” by Julian Marshall, which would
interest you.
AWKWARD SIXTEEN.—Ask a surgeon. We could not give an opinion without
seeing them. It is always a risky thing to carry bottles full of any
liquid in a trunk; it is better to put them in the handbag, if there be
room.
NOTE OF INTERROGATION.—A widow can claim a third of her husband’s
property, and the remaining two-thirds are divided in equal shares
between his children, by whichever wife. The marriage settlements, if
any exist, are apart from this. You may have money from this source.
A. B. C.—Always consult your rector as to the decorations of his
church. Your writing is fairly good and legible.
PERSIS.—It would be better to consult your doctor about your fits of
sneezing, as there are several causes, and, independently of outward
irritation of the air passages, some affections of the stomach are said
to produce them.
SARA AMELIA.—The Mishna of the Jews was the oral law, and the Gemara
was the commentary upon it, and these two united form the Talmud. The
Masora is the true reading of the Scriptures, while the before-named
Mishna and Gemara combined gave the true interpretation. The
commencement of the Masoretic Notes is dated by some as far back as the
time of Ezra, the inspired writer of the book bearing his name in the
Old Testament.
VIOLET and SUNFLOWER.—The St. Bernard puppies could be disposed of by
advertising them. Of course, a pedigree would make them more valuable.
We should think that the fowls wanted a much warmer fowl-house.
ELLA must put her name on her mother’s card. Young ladies of twenty-one
do not have separate cards.
ARIEL.—Leave the steel brooch in oil for a day or two, and then rub it
well with chamois leather. Should that prove ineffectual in removing
the rust, send it to a silversmith to be cleaned.
E. M. H. must let her friends know that she has returned, and the best
way to do that is to call and see them.
ERNESTINE.—The name De Lesseps is pronounced as in English, excepting
that the final “s” is mute. The name Sodor is derived from _Sodor Eys_,
or South Isles—_i.e._, the Hebrides, the Orkneys being known as the
North Isles. These Southern or Western Isles were made an Episcopal
diocese by Magnus, King of Norway, in 1098, and were united as one
diocese to the Isle of Man in 1113.
JOHN’S KITTEN.—May 6th, 1853, was a Friday, and July 21st, 1867, was a
Sunday. We are glad to hear that our answers have helped you.
JANIE SHAW.—Miss Ellman, The Rectory, Berwich, Sussex, is secretary of
an early rising society, as well as of other societies.
F. E. S.—There is always a table for finding dates in every “Whitaker’s
Almanack.”
MISS MOORE SMITH wishes it to be known that her Home Workers’
Missionary Union passed from her hands into those of Miss Chute, 25,
Longford-terrace, Monkstown, co. Dublin, and thence again into other
management. Perhaps Miss Chute might give any information desired.
DAISY A. (Moor-street).—The “Old Maid’s Story” is not without merit.
The language flows very easily, and, with more experience and plenty
of perseverance, we think the writer might do something worth reading
later on.
FORGET-ME-NOT, MAGGIE DAVIES, and LITTLE DOT.—Write to our publisher
about the index, “Crown of Flowers,” etc. The 13th November, 1833, was
a Wednesday, and the 12th October, 1833, a Saturday. It is pleasant to
hear of your appreciation of the G. O. P.
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[Transcriber’s Note—the following changes have been made to this text.
Page 211: dreadfuly to dreadfully—“dreadfully sensible”.]