Incarnation, disclosure of, in training child-faith, 136.
Inclination must submit to discipline, 57.
Indignation, in punishing, distinguished from anger, 212.
Influence of the home atmosphere, 257–262.
Innate, faith toward God is, but knowledge of him is not, 130.
“Innocents’ Day,” a time for flogging children, 54.
Instinctive:
faith of every child, 129;
fears, the value of, 229.
Interrogation-point, a child as an animated, 119.
Issue with a child to be avoided as far as possible, 46, 88.
JAMES and John, their mother’s example of the mother-love, 266.
Jeroboam’s wife, an example of the mother-love, 266.
Jesus Christ:
incarnation of, readily grasped by a child’s faith, 136;
table-talk of, 188;
recognizing, on the cross, his mother’s love, 265;
sympathizes with our enjoyments, 290.
Jochebed, an example of the mother-love, 265.
John’s Gospel as a first book for heathen converts, 132.
Johnson, Dr., on reading, 175;
on the mother-love, 269.
Joyful observance of the Lord’s Day, 141, 153.
Judgment, in judge or parent, should not be hasty, 206.
KINDERGARTEN, a fundamental truth in its system, 160.
Knowledge:
begins with a question, 119;
questions should be directed in order to gain, 125;
regarding God, must be disclosed to the child, 130.
LATE hours, amusements of the child should not involve, 161.
Laughing:
a time for, 99;
not so easy, for a baby, as crying, 239.
Letting alone as a means of child-training, 83–92.
Life:
children see dark side of, first, 239;
burdens of, rest heaviest on the child-nature, 240;
death and, in the atmosphere, 258.
Lightning and thunder, overcoming a child’s fears of, 231.
Limitations:
scope and, of child-training, 23–28;
to a child’s privilege of question-asking, 123.
Lord’s Day:
every day is, 139;
set apart from other days, in childish occupations, toys, etc., 144.
Love:
God’s, includes the bad child, 135;
necessary to acceptable worship or work, 140;
parental, in punishing, awakens child’s, 214;
distinguished from sympathy, 248, 256;
an element of the home atmosphere, 261;
the power of a mother’s, 263–276;
the divine compared with a mother’s, 261;
historical illustrations of, and testimonies to a mother’s, 263–276.
“Luck,” no place for it in children’s games, 160.
Luther, Martin:
individuality of, in childhood, honored by Trebonius, 74;
on the mother-love, 270.
MACAULAY, Lord, on the mother-love, 272.
Making believe as distinct from deception, 278.
Manliness promoted by amusements, 160.
Manners, fine, according to De Quincey, 166.
Meals, mental and moral enjoyments at, 187.
Memory:
of a mother’s love, its permanent influence, 263;
illustrated, 266–273;
of Christmas festivities, 289;
of the good-night kiss, 293.
Mental defects remedied, 25.
Misrepresenting God to a child, 135.
Mission-school, illustration of the bad boy in one, 213.
Moses, the possibilities of his character in infancy, 72.
Mother Goose, value of, 177.
Mother:
has more time than the father to share children’s amusements, 158;
scolding by a, no better than an apple-woman’s, 218;
commandments to honor, 267.
Mother’s love:
the power of a, 263–276;
memory of, in the good-night kiss, 293.
Music in the home, 163.
“Must” the place of, in training, 53–60 [see Discipline].
“NAGGING” is not training, 90.
Napoleon Bonaparte, on the mother-love, 273.
Natural:
objects, suggesting lines of reading, 184;
tone of voice, in dog-training and in child-training, 219;
power of sympathy not wholly, 256.
Neighbors’ criticism of our children valuable, 33.
Never punish a child in anger, 205–216.
News, daily, outlined by father at breakfast table, 193.
Night [see Good-night Words].
Nonsense songs, value of, 177.
Nott, President, soothed at ninety by old lullabies, 271.
OBSERVANCE of Sabbath, training a child to, 139–154.
“Only child, the:”
not always “spoiled,” 63;
disadvantage of his lack of companions at home, 200.
Opinions of a child, honoring the, 80.
Over-doing in child-training:
danger of, 83;
an error of the thoughtful as well as the thoughtless, 90.
Oxygen, analogy from, 258 f.
PARENTS:
undervalue their power to train, 17, 35;
blindness of, to the peculiar faults of their children, 31;
should heed criticism of neighbors and friends, 33;
faults of, often reappear in their children, 35;
should never force a child’s choice, 41;
anger no help to, in training, 44, 205;
permanent harm to, in breaking their child’s will, 48;
should control a child’s personal habits, 56;
must often deny a child’s requests, 62;
must honor a child’s individuality, 71;
often inferior in possibilities to their children, 75;
young, in danger of over-disciplining a child, 83;
should seek to avoid direct issues with a child, 89;
teaching the infant self-control, 94;
training children to tease, 102;
respect of, lost by children who tease, 105;
giving sugar and condiments, 116;
average, unable to answer questions of average children, 122;
as revealers of revelation, 131;
must have faith in order to train a child’s faith, 137;
should provide peculiar occupations and privileges for Sunday, 144,
148;
should be the center of their children’s amusements, 157, 163;
should learn from the kindergarten system, 160;
should train children to courtesy, 173;
responsible for children’s reading, 176, 180;
should give children a share in family table-talk, 190, 196;
responsible for choice of a child’s companions, 197, 201;
should never punish in anger, 205;
as peace-keepers and policemen, 211;
should never scold, 217;
should deal tenderly with child-fears, 223;
should have sympathy for child-sorrows, 242;
should point to Christ, as the way of comfort, 246;
as “friend-enemies,” 255;
responsible for a home-atmosphere, 259–261;
allowing play to a child’s imagination, 277 f.;
should prepare for Christmas festivities, 283 f.;
the good-night words of, 291.
Passions and appetites, self-control of, should begin early, 99.
Patience, necessity of:
in dog-training and child-training, 220;
especially at child’s bed-time, 294.
Patteson, Bishop, among the South Sea Islanders, 132.
Paul’s self-control, 98.
Person, faith rests on a, 129.
Personal:
power measured by will-power, 37;
character to be held sacred, 39, 71;
rights of children, honoring, 77;
merit, not a means of acceptance with God, 135.
Physical:
defects remedied, 25;
pain, endurance of, 96.
Place of “must” in training, the, 53–60.
Place of sympathy in child-training, 247–256.
Playmates:
treatment of visiting, 171;
unkindnesses of, 240 [see Companionships].
Playthings:
use of, in training the faculties, 160;
not a substitute for parental sympathy, 250;
imagination in the use of, 279, 280.
Politeness, true, 166.
Porter, President, on a college curriculum, 56.
Power of a mother’s love, the, 263–276 [see Mother’s Love].
Prayer:
meaning of, taught before the child can talk, 131;
faith in, not to supplant faith in God, 133;
sharing a child’s, 292;
a new meaning of, gained through a child’s good-night words, 299.
Preferences, personal:
not to control study and work, 59;
nor reading, 177.
Profound thought possible to a child, 80;
as of God’s personality and love, 131;
or, the doctrine of the incarnation, 136.
Protection of a child, in danger, distinguished from punishment,
210, 211.
Punish a child in anger, never, 205–216.
Punishment:
divine, not destructive of free-will, 40;
teaching a child to choose obedience or, 44 f.;
undue severity of, 45;
has a proper use, 205;
should be a calm and judicial act, 206;
distinguished from prompt protection of a child in danger, 210, 211;
administered in love, is recognized as love prompted, 214;
often harder for a parent than for his child, 215;
not to be inflicted upon an offense of ignorance, 215;
child’s permanent good the purpose of, 216;
evil of postponing until the child’s bed-time, 294, 295.
Puzzles, for Sunday, 151.
QUESTIONER, training a child as a, 119–128.
Questions:
children encouraged to ask, 120;
discouraged from asking improper, 123;
value of a set time for answering, 124;
should be in order to gain knowledge, 125;
wisdom of deferring answers to some, 127;
asking, in family table-talk, 192.
Quiet talking more effective than scolding, 220.
RACHEL, an example of the mother-love, 265.
Rarey, the horse-trainer, method of, 50.
Reading:
cultivating a child’s taste for, 175–186;
its value, according to Addison and Johnson, 175;
place and value of fiction in, 177, 178;
taste for good should be aroused in childhood, 180.
Reasonable fears to be met by reason, 228.
Recreation distinguished from amusement, 155.
Reference-books, use of, in family table-talk, 193.
Residence, companionships for children to be in mind, when choosing
a, 201.
Respect, self, of the courteous man, 166.
Rest, not in inaction, but in change, 142.
Rewards:
divine use of, 40;
dangers in the use of, 97.
Rich children in danger of being untrained in self-denial, 65.
Ridicule cannot overcome child-fears, 224, 228.
Rizpah, an example of the mother-love, 266.
Romans, their table-talk, 187.
Rubbing the gullet, a primitive custom, 14.
SABBATH observance, training children to, 139–154.
Samuel’s individuality, in childhood, honored by Eli, 73.
Santa Claus, as a Christmas fancy, 279.
Science, training a child to enjoy books of, 180.
Scolding:
never in order, 217–222;
most common at bed-time, 294.
Scope and limitations of child-training, 23–28 [see Limitations].
Self-assertion not consistent with courtesy, 166.
Self-control:
training a child to, 93–100;
necessary for parents before punishing a child, 210;
before censuring a child, 220.
Self-denial:
importance of training children to, 62;
an only child liable to lack stimulus to, 200.
Self-forgetfulness the basis of courtesy, 168.
Selfishness fostered by the granting of every request, 63.
Self-respect of the courteous man, 166.
Sermons for children, read at home on Sunday, 150.
Sharing:
children’s joys and sorrows, 248, 253;
children’s Christmas pleasures, 290;
in children’s evening prayer, 292.
Shetland ponies trained to eat hay, 116.
Shunammite woman, an example of the mother-love, 266.
Silly questions not to be encouraged, 125.
Skelton, John, on scolding, 218.
Skill, not chance, in children’s games, 161.
Soldier:
fear felt by every, 224;
imaginary fears of a, 234;
finding peace on his death-bed through the mother-love, 274.
Solomon:
on child-training, 15;
on honoring a mother, 267.
Sorrows of children, the, 239–246;
they call for sympathy, 247–256;
because of harsh treatment at bed-time, 294.
South Sea Islanders taught from John’s Gospel first, 132.
Spartan children trained to self-denial, 68.
Special need of training, discerning a child’s, 29–36.
Spencer, Herbert, on intellectual sympathy with children, 249.
Spoiled child, the:
not always an “only child,” 63;
may be a first child, over-disciplined, 87.
Studying a child’s specific needs, 35.
Sugar-plums to “pacify” crying children, 97, 111.
Suicide of children, 244.
Sunday-school:
lesson, studied at home on Sunday, 150;
attendance of, in early childhood, 152;
library-book, mission of the average, 179;
companionships in view while choosing a, 201.
Symmetry in child-training, dependent on companionships, 200.
Sympathy:
of parents with children in amusements, 157;
in companionships, 199;
in fears, 235 f.;
place of, in child-training, 247–256;
defined, 248, 256;
Herbert Spencer on, 249;
in a child’s misdeeds and accidents, 254;
not wholly natural to parents, 256;
in the “home-atmosphere,” 261;
craved by a child at bed-time, 292.
Syro-Phœnician woman, an example of the mother-love, 266.
TABLE-TALK, the value of, 187–196.
Taste in reading, cultivating a child’s, 175–186 [see Reading].
Teaching distinguished from training, 11.
Tease, training a child not to, 101–108.
Tenderly dealing with a child’s fears, 223–238 [see Fears].
Thought, profound, possible to a child, 80.
Thoughtfulness for others distinguished from self-forgetfulness, 169.
Thunder and lightning, overcoming a child’s fear of, 231.
Timidity to be overcome by training, 227.
Timothy’s mother, an example of the mother-love, 266.
Topics, assigning special, for next day’s family table-talk, 194.
Toys:
for Sunday, 145–147;
breaking of, a serious matter to a child, 243.
Training:
distinguished from teaching, 11;
defined, 12;
should begin at birth, 15;
shapes character, 16;
more than counseling, 17;
limited by a child’s capacity, 23;
special, necessary for every child, 29;
danger of its developing the poorer self, 30;
the child’s will, 37;
need of gentleness in, 44;
by discipline, 53;
a child to do unpleasant duties, 55, 59;
by denying requests, 61;
of an only child, 62;
letting alone as a means of, 83–92;
of a first child, 84 f.;
over-doing in, an error, 90;
“nagging” is not, 90;
to self-control, 93–100;
not to tease, 101–108;
Susannah Wesley’s method of, 105;
a child’s appetite, 109–118;
children as questioners, 119–128;
a child’s faith, 129–138;
to Sabbath observance, 139–154;
in amusements, 155–164;
to courtesy, 165–174;
a child’s taste in reading, 175;
value of table-talk in, 189;
child-companionships as an element in, 197;
has no place for scolding, 217–222;
tone of voice in, 219;
by tenderness toward a child’s fears, 223–238;
joyousness as a result of, 240;
sympathy as an aid in, 247–256;
home atmosphere as a power in, 257–262;
power of a mother’s love in, 263–276;
through the play of a child’s imagination, 277–282;
by good-night words and deeds, 291–300.
Trebonius, honoring the individuality of children, 74.
Trust:
child’s, is instinctive, 130;
prayer is not mere asking, but, 134.
“Tunge of a skolde,” John Skelton’s couplet on, 218.
UNSELFISHNESS:
the basis of courtesy, 165;
in a child’s companionships, 199.
VALUE:
of table-talk, 187–196;
giving added, to a child’s Christmas, 283–290.
Values, child-sorrows measured by those of the child, 243.
Voice, necessity of natural tone of, in training, 219.
WAGON, raisin-box, 67.
Wanting not always reason for granting, 69.
Washington and Braddock as to fear, 225.
Watch, boy who could not spare his, 77.
Waterloo, battle of, won on Eton’s playground, 161.
Wear, parents should decide what children may, 117.
Wellington, Duke of, quoted, 161.
Wesley, Susannah, her method in training, 105.
Whipping at bed-time, unwisdom of, 295.
Will, training of, rather than breaking, 37–52.
Wisdom:
in denying a child, 61–70;
more needed for letting alone than for commanding, 91.
Words, good-night [see Good-night].
Wordsworth, quoted, 81.
Worship:
more than mere quietness in church, 142;
family, on Sunday, 150.
“YANKING” at the reins is not good driving, 91.
Young:
parents, in danger of over-disciplining, 83;
teachers, peculiar influence of, 198;
people, welcoming the mother’s good-night kiss, 293.
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