LONDON, April 5, 1754

MY DEAR FRIEND: I received yesterday your letter of the 20th March, from

Manheim, with the inclosed for Mr. Eliot; it was a very proper one, and I

have forwarded it to him by Mr. Harte, who sets out for Cornwall tomorrow

morning.

I am very glad that you use yourself to translations; and I do not care

of what, provided you study the correctness and elegance of your style.

The “Life of Sextus Quintus” is the best book of the innumerable books

written by Gregorio Leti, whom the Italians, very justly, call ‘Leti caca

libro’. But I would rather that you chose some pieces of oratory for your

translations, whether ancient or modern, Latin or French, which would

give you a more oratorical train of thoughts and turn of expression. In

your letter to me you make use of two words, which though true and

correct English, are, however, from long disuse, become inelegant, and

seem now to be stiff, formal, and in some degree scriptural; the first is

the word NAMELY, which you introduce thus, YOU INFORM ME OF A VERY

AGREEABLE PIECE OF NEWS, namely, THAT MY ELECTION IS SECURED. Instead of

NAMELY, I would always use WHICH IS, or THAT IS, that my-election is

secured. The other word is, MINE OWN INCLINATIONS: this is certainly

correct before a subsequent word that begins with a vowel; but it is too

correct, and is now disused as too formal, notwithstanding the hiatus

occasioned by MY OWN. Every language has its peculiarities; they are

established by usage, and whether right or wrong, they must be complied

with. I could instance many very absurd ones in different languages; but

so authorized by the ‘jus et norma loquendi’, that they must be submitted

to. NAMELY, and TO WIT, are very good words in themselves, and contribute

to clearness more than the relatives which we now substitute in their

room; but, however, they cannot be used, except in a sermon or some very

grave and formal compositions. It is with language as with manners they

are both established by the usage of people of fashion; it must be

imitated, it must be complied with. Singularity is only pardonable in old

age and retirement; I may now be as singular as I please, but you may

not. We will, when we meet, discuss these and many other points, provided

you will give me attention and credit; without both which it is to no

purpose to advise either you or anybody else.

I want to know your determination, where you intend to (if I may use that

expression) WHILE away your time till the last week in June, when we are

to meet at Spa; I continue rather in the opinion which I mentioned to you

formerly, in favor of The Hague; but however, I have not the least

objection to Dresden, or to any other place that you may like better. If

you prefer the Dutch scheme, you take Treves and Coblentz in your way, as

also Dusseldorp: all which places I think you have not yet seen. At

Manheim you may certainly get good letters of recommendation to the

courts of the two Electors of Treves and Cologne, whom you are yet

unacquainted with; and I should wish you to know them all; for, as I have

often told you, ‘olim haec meminisse juvabit’. There is an utility in

having seen what other people have seen, and there is a justifiable pride

in having seen what others have not seen. In the former case, you are

equal to others; in the latter, superior. As your stay abroad will not

now be very long, pray, while it lasts, see everything and everybody you

can, and see them well, with care and attention. It is not to be

conceived of what advantage it is to anybody to have seen more things,

people, and countries, than other people in general have; it gives them a

credit, makes them referred to, and they become the objects of the

attention of the company. They are not out in any part of polite

conversation; they are acquainted with all the places, customs, courts,

and families that are likely to be mentioned; they are, as Monsieur de

Maupertuis justly observes, ‘de tous les pays, comme les savans, sont de

tous les tems’. You have, fortunately, both those advantages: the only

remaining point is ‘de savoir les faire valoir’, for without that one may

as well not have them. Remember that very true maxim of La Bruyere’s,

‘Qu’on ne vaut dans se monde que ce qu’on veut valoir’. The knowledge of

the world will teach you to what degree you ought to show ‘que vous

valez’. One must by no means, on one hand, be indifferent about it; as,

on the other, one must not display it with affectation, and in an

overbearing manner, but, of the two, it is better to show too much than

too little. Adieu.

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