LETTER XLII

LONDON, June 21, O. S. 1748.

DEAR BOY: Your very bad enunciation runs so much in my head, and gives me

such real concern, that it will be the subject of this, and, I believe,

of many more letters. I congratulate both you and myself, that, was

informed of it (as I hope) in time to prevent it: and shall ever think

myself, as hereafter you will, I am sure think yourself, infinitely

obliged to Sir Charles Williams for informing me of it. Good God! if this

ungraceful and disagreeable manner of speaking had, either by your

negligence or mine, become habitual to you, as in a couple of years more

it would have been, what a figure would you have made in company, or in a

public assembly? Who would have liked you in the one or attended you; in

the other? Read what Cicero and Quintilian say of enunciation, and see

what a stress they lay upon the gracefulness of it; nay, Cicero goes

further, and even maintains, that a good figure is necessary for an

orator; and particularly that he must not be vastus, that is, overgrown

and clumsy. He shows by it that he knew mankind well, and knew the powers

of an agreeable figure and a graceful, manner. Men, as well as women, are

much oftener led by their hearts than by their understandings. The way to

the heart is through the senses; please their eyes and their ears and the

work is half done. I have frequently known a man’s fortune decided for

ever by his first address. If it is pleasing, people are hurried

involuntarily into a persuasion that he has a merit, which possibly he

has not; as, on the other hand, if it is ungraceful, they are immediately

prejudiced against him, and unwilling to allow him the merit which it may

be he has. Nor is this sentiment so unjust and unreasonable as at first

it may seem; for if a man has parts, he must know of what infinite

consequence it is to him to have a graceful manner of speaking, and a

genteel and pleasing address; he will cultivate and improve them to the

utmost. Your figure is a good one; you have no natural defect in the

organs of speech; your address may be engaging, and your manner of

speaking graceful, if you will; so that if you are not so, neither I nor

the world can ascribe it to anything but your want of parts. What is the

constant and just observation as to all actors upon the stage? Is it not,

that those who have the best sense, always speak the best, though they

may happen not to have the best voices? They will speak plainly,

distinctly, and with the proper emphasis, be their voices ever so bad.

Had Roscius spoken QUICK, THICK, and UNGRACEFULLY, I will answer for it,

that Cicero would not have thought him worth the oration which he made in

his favor. Words were given us to communicate our ideas by: and there

must be something inconceivably absurd in uttering them in such a manner

as that either people cannot understand them, or will not desire to

understand them. I tell you, truly and sincerely, that I shall judge of

your parts by your speaking gracefully or ungracefully. If you have

parts, you will never be at rest till you have brought yourself to a

habit of speaking most gracefully; for I aver, that it is in your power

--You will desire Mr. Harte, that you may read aloud to him every day;

and that he will interrupt and correct you every time that you read too

fast, do not observe the proper stops, or lay a wrong emphasis. You will

take care to open your teeth when you speak; to articulate every word

distinctly; and to beg of Mr. Harte, Mr. Eliot, or whomsoever you speak

to, to remind and stop you, if you ever fall into the rapid and

unintelligible mutter. You will even read aloud to yourself, and time

your utterance to your own ear; and read at first much slower than you

need to do, in order to correct yourself of that shameful trick of

speaking faster than you ought. In short, if you think right, you will

make it your business; your study, and your pleasure to speak well.

Therefore, what I have said in this, and in my last, is more than

sufficient, if you have sense; and ten times more would not be

sufficient, if you have not; so here I rest it.

Next to graceful speaking, a genteel carriage, and a graceful manner of

presenting yourself, are extremely necessary, for they are extremely

engaging: and carelessness in these points is much more unpardonable in a

young fellow than affectation. It shows an offensive indifference about

pleasing. I am told by one here, who has seen you lately, that you are

awkward in your motions, and negligent of your person: I am sorry for

both; and so will you be, when it will be too late, if you continue so

some time longer. Awkwardness of carriage is very alienating; and a total

negligence of dress and air is an impertinent insult upon custom and

fashion. You remember Mr.------very well, I am sure, and you must

consequently remember his, extreme awkwardness: which, I can assure you,

has been a great clog to his parts and merit, that have, with much

difficulty, but barely counterbalanced it at last. Many, to whom I have

formerly commended him, have answered me, that they were sure he could

not have parts, because he was so awkward: so much are people, as I

observed to you before, taken by the eye. Women have great influence as

to a man’s fashionable character; and an awkward man will never have

their votes; which, by the way, are very numerous, and much oftener

counted than weighed. You should therefore give some attention to your

dress, and the gracefulness of your motions. I believe, indeed, that you

have no perfect model for either at Leipsig, to form yourself upon; but,

however, do not get a habit of neglecting either; and attend properly to

both, when you go to courts, where they are very necessary, and where you

will have good masters and good models for both. Your exercises of

riding, fencing, and dancing, will civilize and fashion your body and

your limbs, and give you, if you will but take it, ‘l’air d’un honnete

homme’.

I will now conclude with suggesting one reflection to you; which is, that

you should be sensible of your good fortune, in having one who interests

himself enough in you, to inquire into your faults, in order to inform

you of them. Nobody but myself would be so solicitous, either to know or

correct them; so that you might consequently be ignorant of them

yourself; for our own self-love draws a thick veil between us and our

faults. But when you hear yours from me, you may be sure that you hear

them from one who for your sake only desires to correct them; from one

whom you cannot suspect of any, partiality but in your favor; and from

one who heartily wishes that his care of you, as a father, may, in a

little time, render every care unnecessary but that of a friend. Adieu.

P. S. I condole with you for the untimely and violent death of the

tuneful Matzel.

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