It ought to be said, at this point in my story, that I had never been
what would be called an even-tempered man. Truth to tell, I was a
spoiled boy. My mother was a saint, but she was a soft-hearted one.
My father was a scholar. Like many another boy of decided
individuality, I came up anyhow. Nobody managed me. At an early age
my profession made it my duty to manage everybody else. I had a
nervous temperament to start on; neither my training nor my occupation
had poised it. I do not think I was malicious nor even ill-natured.
As men go, I was perhaps a kind man. The thing which I am trying to
say is, that I was an irritable one.
As I look back upon the whole subject I can see, from my present point
of view, that this irritability had seldom struck me as a personal
disadvantage. I do not think it usually makes that impression upon
temperaments similarly vitiated. As nearly as I can remember, I
thought of myself rather as the possessor of an eccentricity, than as
the victim of a vice. My father was an overworked college
professor,--a quick-tempered man; my mother,--so he told me with
streaming tears, upon the day that he buried her,--my mother never
spoke one irritated word to him in all her life: he had chafed and she
had soothed, he had slashed and she had healed, from the beginning to
the end of their days together. A boy imitates for so many years
before he reflects, that the liberty to say what one felt like saying
appeared to me a mere identification of sex long before it occurred to
me that mine might not be the only sex endowed by nature with this form
of expression. I regarded it as one regards a beard, or a
waistcoat,--simple signs of the variation of species.
My mother--Heaven rest her sweet soul--did not, that I recall,
obviously oppose me in this view. After the time of the first
moustache she obeyed her son, as she had obeyed her husband.
As has been already said, the profession to which I fell heir failed to
recommend to me a different personal attitude toward the will of
others. My sick people were my pawns upon the chess-board of life. I
played my game with humane intentions, not wholly, I believe, with
selfish ones. But I suffered the military dangers of character,
without the military apologies for them. He whose duty to God and men
requires him to command all with whom he comes in contact should pray
God, and not expect men, to have mercy on his soul.
It is possible, I do not deny, that I put this view of the case without
what literary critics call "the light touch." It is quite possible
that I emphasize it. Circumstances have made this natural; and if I
need any excuse for it I must seek it in them. Whether literary or
not, it is not human to cherish a light view of a heavy experience.
I loved my wife. This, I think, I have sufficiently made plain. I
loved her as I might have discovered a new world; and I tried to
express this fact, as I should have learned a new, unworldly language.
I could no more have spoken unkindly to her than I could vivisect a
humming-bird. I obeyed her lightest look as if she had given me an
anaesthetic. Her love intoxicated me. I seemed to be the first lover
who had ever used this phrase. My heart originated it, with a sense of
surprise at my own imaginative quality. I was chloroformed with joy.
Oh, I loved her! I return to that. I find I can say nothing beyond
it. I loved her as other people loved,--patients, and uninstructed
persons. I, Esmerald Thorne, President of the State Medical Society,
and Foreign Correspondent of the National Evolutionary Association,
forty-six years old, and a Darwinian,--I loved my wife like any common,
ardent, unscientific fellow.
It is easy to toss words and a smile at it all, now. There have been
times when either would have been impossible from very heart-break.
There, again, is another of the phrases to which experience has been my
only vocabulary. My patients used to talk to me about their broken
hearts. I took the temperature and wrote a prescription. I added that
she would be better to-morrow; I would call again in a week. I assured
her that I understood the case. I was as well fitted to diagnose the
diseases of the Queen of some purple planet which the telescope has not
yet given to astronomy.
I have said that I found it impossible to be irritable to my dear wife.
I cannot tell the precise time when it became possible. When does the
dawn become the day upon the summer sky? When does the high tide begin
to turn beneath the August moon? Rather, I might say, when does the
blue become the violet, within the prism? Did I love her the less,
because the distance of the worshipper had dwindled to the lover's
clasp?
I could have shot the scoffer who told me so. What then? What shall I
call that difference with which the man's love differs when he has won
the woman? Had the miracle gone out of it? God forbid.
It was no longer the marvel of the fire come down from heaven to smite
the altar. It was the comfortable miracle of the daily manna. Had my
goddess departed from her divinity, my queen from her throne, my star
from her heaven? Rather, in becoming mine she had become myself, and
if there were a loss, that loss was in my own nature. I should have
risen by reason of hers. If I descended, it was by force of my own
gravitation. Her wing was too light to carry me.
It is easier to philosophize about these things than it is to record
them in cold fact. With shame and sorrow do I say it, but say it I
must: My love went the way of the love of other men who feel (this was
and remains the truth) far less than I. I, who had believed myself to
love like no other before me, and none to come after me, and I, who had
won the dearest woman in all the world--I stooped to suffer myself to
grow used to my blessedness, like any low man who was incapable of
winning or of wearing it.
It cannot be said, it shall not be said, that I loved my wife less than
the day I married her. It must be written that I became accustomed to
my happiness.
That ideal of myself, which my ideal of her created in me, and which no
emergency of fate could have shaken, slipped in the old, fatal
quicksand of use. Our ideal of ourselves is to our highest life like
the heart to the pulsation. It is the divinest art of the love of
woman for man that she clasps him to his vision of himself, as breath
and being are held together.
Until the time mentioned at the beginning of my narrative, I had in no
sense appreciated the state of the case, as it lay between my ideal and
my fact. That I had been more or less impatient of speech in my own
home for some time past, is probably true. The ungoverned lip is a
terrible master; and I had been a slave too long. I was in the habit
of finding fault with my patients. I was accustomed to be what we call
"quick" with servants. Neither had, I thought, as a rule, seemed to
care the less for me on this account. If I lost a patient or a
coachman now and then, I could afford to. The item did not trouble me.
I was inconsiderate at times with personal friends. They said, It is
his way, and bore with me. People usually bore with me; they always
had. I looked upon this as one of the rights of temperament, so far as
I looked upon it at all. I do not think this indulgence had occurred
to me as other than a tribute. It is common enough in dealing with men
of my sort. (And alas, there are enough of my sort; I must be looked
upon rather as a type than a specimen.) Such indulgence is a movement
of self-defence, or else of philosophy, upon the part of those who come
in contact with us. To this view of the subject I had given no
attention.
I had lived to be almost fifty years old, and no person had ever said:
"Esmerald Thorne, you trust your attractive qualities too far. Power
and charm do not give a man a permit to be disagreeable. Your
temperament does not release you from the common-place human duty of
self-restraint. A gentleman has no more right to get uncontrollably
angry than he has to get drunk. The patience with which others receive
you is not a testimony to your strength; it is a concession to your
weakness. You are living upon concessions like disease, or childhood,
or age."
No one had said this--surely not my wife. I can recall an expression
of bewilderment at times upon her beautiful face, which for the moment
perplexed me. After I had gone out, I would remember that I had been
nervous in my manner. I do not think I had ever spoken with actual
roughness to her, until this day of which I write. That I had been
sometimes cross enough, is undoubtedly the case.
On that November day I had been overworked. This was no novelty, and I
offer it as no excuse. I had been up for two nights with a dangerous
case. I had another in the suburbs, and a consultation out of town.
There was a quarrel at the hospital, and a panic in Stock Street. I
had seen sixty patients that day. I had been attacked in the
"Therapeutic Quarterly" upon my famous theory of Antisepsis. Perhaps I
may add the circumstance that my baby was teething.
This was, naturally, less important to me than to his mother, who
thought the child was ill. I knew better, and it annoyed me that my
knowledge did not remove her apprehension. In point of fact, he had
cried at night for a week or two, more than he ought to have done. She
could not understand why I denied him a Dover's powder. I needed
sleep, and could not get it. We were both worn, and--I might fill my
chapter to the brim with the little reasons for my great error. Let it
suffice that they were small and that it was large.
We had been married three years, and our boy was a year old. He was a
fine fellow. Helen lost her Greek look and took on the Madonna
expression after he was born. Any woman who is fit to be a mother
gains that expression with her first child. My wife was a very happy
mother.
She was sitting in the library when I came in that evening. It was a
warm, red library, with heavy curtains and an open fire--a deep room
that absorbed colour. I fancied the room, and it was my wife's
pleasure to await me in it with the child each evening at the earliest
hour when I might by any chance be expected home. She possessed to the
full the terrible power of waiting which women have. She could do
nothing when she expected me. Although three years married, she could
not read, or write, or play when she was listening for my step. I do
not mean that she told me this. I found it out. She never called my
attention to such little feminine weaknesses. She was never over-fond.
My wife had a noble reserve. I had never seen the hour when I felt
that her tenderness was a treasure to be lightly had, or indifferently
treated.
It should be said that the library opened from the parlours, and was at
that time separated from them by a heavy portiere of crimson stuff, the
doors not being drawn. This drapery she was in the habit of folding
apart at the hours of my probable return, and as I came through the
long parlours my eyes had the first greeting of her, before my voice or
arms. Upon this evening, as upon others, I entered by the parlour
door, and came--more quickly than usual--toward the library. I was in
a great hurry; one of the acute attacks of the chronic condition which
besets the busy doctor. As I crossed the length of the thick carpet,
the rooms shook beneath my tread; I burst into, rather than entered,
the library,--not seeing her, I think, or not pausing to see her, in
the accustomed manner. When I had come to her I found that the child
was not with her, as usual. She was sitting alone by the library table
under the drop-light, which held a shade of red lace. She had a gown
of white wool trimmed with ermine; a costume which gave me pleasure,
and which she wore upon cool evenings, not too often for me to weary of
it. She regarded my taste in dress as delicately and as delightedly as
she did every other wish or will of mine.
She had been trying to read; but the magazine lay closed upon her knee
below her folded hands. Her face wore an anxious look as she turned
the fine contours of her head toward me.
"Oh," she cried, "at last!"
She moved to reach me, swiftly, murmuring something which I did not
hear, or to which I did not attend; and under the crimson curtains met
me, warm and dear and white, putting up her sweet arms.
I kissed her carelessly--would to God that I could forget it! I kissed
her as if it did not matter much, and said:--
"Helen, I must have my dinner this instant!"
"Why, surely," she said, retreating from me with a little shock of
pained surprise, "It is all ready, Esmerald. I will ring."
She melted from my arms. Oh, if I had known, if I had known! She
stirred and slipped and was gone from me, and I stood stupidly looking
at her; her figure, against the tall, full book-cases, shone mistily,
while she touched the old-fashioned bell-rope of gold cord.
"Really, I hadn't time to come home at all," I added testily. "I am
driven to death. I've got to go again in ten minutes. But I supposed
you would worry if I didn't show myself. It is a foolish waste of
time. I don't know how I am ever going to get through. I wish I
hadn't come."