WHERE WOMAN COMMANDS

If we now return from the West Coast to Eastern Africa we find on the

northern confines of Abyssinia a strange case of the subjection of

men, which Munzinger has described in his _Ostafrikanische Studien_

(275-338). The Beni Amer are a tribe of Mohammedan shepherds among

whom "the sexes seem to have exchanged rôles, the women being more

masculine in their work." Property is legally held in common,

wherefore the men rarely dare to do anything without consulting their

wives. In return for this submission they are treated with the utmost

contempt:

"For every angry word that the husband utters he is

compelled to pay a fine, and perhaps spend a whole

rainy night outdoors till he has promised to give his

weaker half a camel and a cow. Thus the wife acquires a

property of her own, which the husband never is allowed

to touch; many women have in this way ruined their

husbands and then left them. The women have much

_esprit de corps_; if one of them has ground for

complaint, all the others come to her aid.... Of course

the man is always found in the wrong; the whole village

is in a turmoil. This _esprit de corps_ demands that

every woman, whether she loves her husband or not, must

conceal her love and treat him contemptuously. It is

considered disgraceful for her to show her love to her

husband. This contempt for men goes so far that if a

wife laments the death of her husband who has died

without issue, her companions taunt her.... One often

hears women abuse their husbands or other men in the

most obscene language, even on the street, and the men

do not dare to make the least retort." "The wife can at

any time return to her mother's house, and remain there

months, sending word to her husband that he may come to

her if he cares for her."

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