CHAPTER IV.

THE PHARISEE UP-TO-DATE.

As long as you continue to hug the delusion that you are "not to blame"

for the unpleasant things in your conditions you might just as well

profess the old thought as the new. The very fundamental principle of

mental science is the statement that _man is a magnet and able to

attract what he will_. To repudiate this statement is to knock the props

out from under the whole philosophy. Better stay an old-thoughter and

let Jesus suffer for your sins and those of your relatives and friends.

At least Jesus _took_ the sins of the world to bear, all of his own free

will. There is some comfort in letting Jesus do what he chose to do.

But you have turned away from Jesus as a scapegoat. You refuse to lay

your burdens on him who offered to bear them; and you refuse to bear

them yourself. Instead you distribute them around among your relations

and friends and then fret your soul because they won't accept your

distributions. Of course you excuse yourself by acknowledging "your

share of responsibility" for the unpleasantness of conditions, but if

you will examine carefully you will find that your portion of the

responsibility includes most of the _good_ things in your conditions,

whilst you have portioned off almost _all_ the responsibility for the

_bad_ things among your protesting--or indifferent--relatives. You

always say, "_I_ try so hard," but you never balance that with, "_He_

tries so hard,"--"_They_ try so hard." You get all the I-try-items in

your own pile and the don't-try-items in other folk's piles. "_If_ it

were not for Tom and Dick and Harry and Fan you would do wonders--_if_

they'd only treat you with _half_ the consideration other people give

you, or half _they_ give other people!--_if!--if!_"

I wonder why they don't indeed! It is just because you are you, _and you

attract your own particular kind of treatment_. To all intents and

purposes Tom, Dick, Harry and Fan are a punch and Judy show and _you

pull the strings_. When other people pull the strings there's a

different sort of show. YOU are the motive power in _all their treatment

of you_. Not a tone or look or act of theirs in your direction but _you_

are responsible for; it was _you_ and no other who drew them to you;

and it is you and no other who hold them there.

Now don't say, "I don't see _how_!" Of course not--_you haven't wanted

to see how_--you've been too intent justifying yourself. And anyway, it

takes an open mind, and some time, and much _faith_ to enable us to see

the _principles_ of things. We have to _act_ as if they were so, a long

time before we see that they are. If you had _acted_ upon the principle

that you are a magnet and that _all_ that comes to you comes by your

attraction, you'd have long ago had your eyes opened to "see how." And

you'd have made progress and _changed your conditions_.

_If you are ever going to be a magnet you are one now._ If you are ever

going to be able to attract to the hair's breadth whatsoever you will

_then you are doing it now_. There will be no miraculous change in the

running gear of this universe to enable you to attract what you want.

_What you now are in essence and working principle you have always been,

and you will always be--the same yesterday, today and forever--a

self-made_ MAGNET, _working to the hair's breadth_.

ONLY BY CHANGING THE QUALITY OF YOUR MAGNETISM CAN YOU CHANGE YOUR

ENVIRONMENT AND ATTRACT DIFFERENT TREATMENT FROM TOM, DICK, HARRY

AND FAN.

Sweetness within brings sweetness without. You have been more or less

bitter and self-justifying within, and Tom, Dick, Harry and Fan have

danced to the strings you pulled.

As long as you think _you_ try and they don't; as long as you think

_your_ judgment superior to theirs; _your_ ideals loftier and worthier;

_your_ ways better; you will get from them responses of carelessness,

bitterness, lack of consideration, selfishness.

_You_ are inconsiderate of _their_ ideas, ideals, judgments and ways;

_in self-preservation_ they are inconsiderate of yours. If you had your

way they'd be pretty little putty images of _your_ ideals, judgments,

wishes, ways and feelings. The Law of Individuality prevents your

imposing yourself on them. You think you are finding fault with _their_

"lack of consideration"; _you are really condemning the law of being_.

If you are ever to be a magnet you are one NOW. _All_ that comes _is_

"your fault." If anything different comes it will come through _your_

change of mental attitude and action.

It will not do to throw it on "Karma" either, and say you are receiving

now the unpleasant things deserved in a previous state of existence. The

mills of the gods grind slowly but they are not so dead slow as all

that. What you thought and did in a previous state has determined your

parentage and childhood environment in this. But the pangs you suffer

today have their roots in yesterday or day before, or the year before

that. Cause and effect trip close upon each other's heels--so close that

the careless or ignorant observer misses the trip. He exaggerates the

_effect_ if it be an unhappy one, and goes nosing for a bigger cause

than the real one. How could _his_ little slip of this morning, or

yesterday, be the cause of this _terrible_ evil which has befallen

him?--and he slides completely over the real cause. _And keeps on

repeating it_.

Self-righteousness, by blinding your eyes to the truth, is the direct

cause of the most gigantic and the most subtle miseries of the world.

These awfully good people who fully realize how hard they have always

tried to do right, are the unhappiest people in the world--unless I

except Tom, Dick, Harry and Fan, the victims of these self-righteous

reformers. No, I can't even except these; for they at least generally

succeed in having their own way in spite of the would-be reformer. But

what so utterly disheartening as continued _lack of success_? And the

self-righteous one never succeeds. It is hard, _hard_, to be so wise and

willing, with such _high_ ideals (the self-righteous one inĀ» strong on

ideals), and _never_ to succeed in making Tom, Dick and Harry conform to

them. Do you see why Jesus said so often, "Woe comes to the Pharisee"

--the self-righteous? And why he called them hypocrites? Of course they

are unconscious of their hypocrisy--self-righteousness blinds them to

the truth; they think _others_ are to blame for most of the

self-righteous one's own hard conditions.

The self-righteous one is doomed to a tread-mill of petty failures. He

goes round and round his own little personal point of view and

learns nothing.

It is by getting at the _other fellow's_ point of view that we learn

things--about him and ourselves, too. When the self-righteous one wakes

up to the _fact_ that the world is _full_ of people whose points of view

are _just exactly_ as right and wise and ideal as his own; and begins to

_feel with_, and PULL WITH these other people, instead of against them;

when he does this he will find himself out of the treadmill to _stay_.

As he shows a disposition to consider _other_ people's ideals and help

others in the line _they_ want to go, he will find the whole world eager

to help _him_ in the way _he_ wants to go. The self-righteous one works

alone and meets defeat. The one who, recognizing his own righteousness

_in intent_, yet forgets not that _others are even as he,_ is the true

friend and _be_-friended, of all the world.

Now don't let this homily slip off _your_ shoulders. We are _all_

self-righteous in spots, and none of us is so _very_ wise that he cannot

by self-examination and readjustment learn a lot more.

Each soul _in its place_ is wisest and best. Don't _you_ try to get into

the pilot house and steer things for Tom, Dick, or Harry. Stay in your

own and steer clear of the rocks of anger, malice, revenge, _resentment,

re-sistance,_ INTERFERENCE and _immoderation_.

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