It is mainly the brother's fault. He has not shown her how much of a man
he himself can be, and she has not noticed the manly qualities of many
of the admirers whom she has passed by in disdain. A wise young woman
should be on the lookout for gentleness and courage in man. If she finds
those qualities--if she can only become aware they are there, her heart
will relent in spite of her, and there will be no hesitancy in her final
choice, nor regret in her final retrospect.