44. The Future of Marriage

The transvaluation of values that is now in progress will go on slowly

and for a very long while. That it will ever be quite complete is, of

course, impossible. There are inherent differences will continue to

show themselves until the end of time. As woman gradually becomes

convinced, not only of the possibility of economic independence, but

also of its value, she will probably lose her present overmastering

desire for marriage, and address herself to meeting men in free

economic competition. That is to say, she will address herself to

acquiring that practical competence, that high talent for puerile and

chiefly mechanical expertness, which now sets man ahead of her in the

labour market of the world. To do this she will have to sacrifice some

of her present intelligence; it is impossible to imagine a genuinely

intelligent human being becoming a competent trial lawyer, or

buttonhole worker, or newspaper sub-editor, or piano tuner, or house

painter. Women, to get upon all fours with men in such stupid

occupations, will have to commit spiritual suicide, which is probably

much further than they will ever actually go. Thus a shade of their

present superiority to men will always remain, and with it a shade of

their relative inefficiency, and so marriage will remain attractive to

them, or at all events to most of them, and its overthrow will be

prevented. To abolish it entirely, as certain fevered reformers

propose, would be as difficult as to abolish the precession of the

equinoxes.

At the present time women vacillate somewhat absurdly between two

schemes of life, the old and the new. On the one hand, their economic

independence is still full of conditions, and on the other hand they

are in revolt against the immemorial conventions. The result is a

general unrest, with many symptoms of extravagant and unintelligent

revolt. One of those symptoms is the appearance of intellectual

striving in women—not a striving, alas, toward the genuine pearls and

rubies of the mind, but one merely toward the acquirement of the rubber

stamps that men employ in their so-called thinking. Thus we have women

who launch themselves into party politics, and fill their heads with a

vast mass of useless knowledge about political tricks, customs,

theories and personalities. Thus, too, we have the woman social

reformer, trailing along ridiculously behind a tatterdemalion posse of

male utopians, each with something to sell. And thus we have the woman

who goes in for advanced wisdom of the sort on draught in women’s

clubs—in brief, the sort of wisdom which consists entirely of a body of

beliefs and propositions that are ignorant, unimportant and untrue.

Such banal striving is most prodigally on display in the United States,

where superficiality amounts to a national disease. Its popularity is

due to the relatively greater leisure of the American people, who work

less than any other people in the world, and, above all, to the

relatively greater leisure of American women. Thousands of them have

been emancipated from any compulsion to productive labour without

having acquired any compensatory intellectual or artistic interest or

social duty. The result is that they swarm in the women’s clubs, and

waste their time, listening to bad poetry, worse music, and still worse

lectures on Maeterlinck, Balkan politics and the subconscious. It is

among such women that one observes the periodic rages for Bergsonism,

the Montessori method, the twilight sleep and other such follies, so

pathetically characteristic of American culture.

One of the evil effects of this tendency I have hitherto descanted

upon, to wit, the growing disposition of American women to regard all

routine labour, particularly in the home, as infra dignitatem and hence

intolerable. Out of that notion arise many lamentable phenomena. On the

one hand, we have the spectacle of a great number of healthy and

well-fed women engaged in public activities that, nine times out of

ten, are meaningless, mischievous and a nuisance, and on the other hand

we behold such a decay in the domestic arts that, at the first

onslaught of the late war, the national government had to import a

foreign expert to teach the housewives of the country the veriest

elements of thrift. No such instruction was needed by the housewives of

the Continent. They were simply told how much food they could have, and

their natural competence did the rest. There is never any avoidable

waste there, either in peace or in war. A French housewife has little

use for a garbage can, save as a depository for uplifting literature.

She does her best with the means at her disposal, not only in war time

but at all times.

As I have said over and over again in this inquiry, a woman’s

disinclination to acquire the intricate expertness that lies at the

bottom of good housekeeping is due primarily to her active

intelligence; it is difficult for her to concentrate her mind upon such

stupid and meticulous enterprises. But whether difficult or easy, it is

obviously important for the average woman to make some effort in that

direction, for if she fails to do so there is chaos. That chaos is duly

visible in the United States. Here women reveal one of their

subterranean qualities: their deficiency in conscientiousness. They are

quite without that dog-like fidelity to duty which is one of the

shining marks of men. They never summon up a high pride in doing what

is inherently disagreeable; they always go to the galleys under

protest, and with vows of sabotage; their fundamental philosophy is

almost that of the syndicalists. The sentimentality of men connives at

this, and is thus largely responsible for it. Before the average

puella, apprenticed in the kitchen, can pick up a fourth of the

culinary subtleties that are commonplace even to the chefs on dining

cars, she has caught a man and need concern herself about them no more,

for he has to eat, in the last analysis, whatever she sets before him,

and his lack of intelligence makes it easy for her to shut off his

academic criticisms by bald appeals to his emotions. By an easy process

he finally attaches a positive value to her indolence. It is a proof,

he concludes, of her fineness of soul. In the presence of her lofty

incompetence he is abashed.

But as women, gaining economic autonomy, meet men in progressively

bitterer competition, the rising masculine distrust and fear of them

will be reflected even in the enchanted domain of marriage, and the

husband, having yielded up most of his old rights, will begin to reveal

a new jealousy of those that remain, and particularly of the right to a

fair quid pro quo for his own docile industry. In brief, as women shake

off their ancient disabilities they will also shake off some of their

ancient immunities, and their doings will come to be regarded with a

soberer and more exigent scrutiny than now prevails. The extension of

the suffrage, I believe, will encourage this awakening; in wresting it

from the reluctant male the women of the western world have planted

dragons’ teeth, the which will presently leap up and gnaw them. Now

that women have the political power to obtain their just rights, they

will begin to lose their old power to obtain special privileges by

sentimental appeals. Men, facing them squarely, will consider them

anew, not as romantic political and social invalids, to be coddled and

caressed, but as free competitors in a harsh world. When that

reconsideration gets under way there will be a general overhauling of

the relations between the sexes, and some of the fair ones, I suspect,

will begin to wonder why they didn’t let well enough alone.

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